View Full Version : So how many “internet” couples are there here?
I ask because I cant believe how many people still think its seedy and perverted to meet your partner online. Yes it was a bit taboo a few years ago, but its becoming more and more like the norm now.
I told a woman at work were me and Daz met, and I was met with a look of disgust. Once I explained the story, she seemed ok with it, but people *still* react like you’ve just introduced them to a mass murderer or something. How do people react when you tell them how you met your other half?
I don’t mean people that met in the “real world” (:D) and now just happen to post here together, but people that, if it wasn’t for BD or OcUK or whatever, would not be together today.
Oh that’s right…
/puts hand up
People always assume we used a dating site. When they ask how we met, and I say blandly 'over the net', they look a bit shocked and then go 'Oh I had a friend that used a dating site...'. Usually I can't be bothered to explain we met on an overclocking forum so I just say we met through friends.
/puts hand up
I didn't, but I know of a few couples that did, one of whom met his wife over t'net back in the mid 90s when it was considered even scarier.
/raises hand
I've never understood the stigma about meeting online. What difference does it make how you met someone?
\o
Same a Vix really, as soon as you mention the internet people assume it's a dating site or a chat room. You have to explain what a forum is and then people still don't get it ;D
Dymetrie
13-01-2009, 11:30
I met Mrs Dym on a dating site (soulmates, the Guardian version) and she's got loads of friends who she met from her forum and I have loads of friends I met from this forum (and overclockers), so most of our friends see it as just another way to meet people and don't see any kind of stigma attached to it.
Guess we're just lucky that we both have lots of friends who are nice and open-minded about t'internetweb :D
Admiral Huddy
13-01-2009, 11:32
\o me and my porn collection!
I ask because I cant believe how many people still think its seedy and perverted to meet your partner online. Yes it was a bit taboo a few years ago, but its becoming more and more like the norm now.
The biggest problem with meeting someone online is that you'll quite possibly end up with someone "into computers". Nightmare scenario for me TBH ;)
What happened to good, old-fashioned nicking your friend's GF anyway? That's what we did in my day :D
Matblack
13-01-2009, 11:54
The internet wasn't invented when Aitch and I met
MB
Faysh and I met on o2 wap chatroom lol spoke for months, got on really well so we met up and almost 7 years later we have 3 kids lol.
Some people are shocked when I say we met on a chatroom but I explain what happened and they see that its not so scary or perverted etc.
Some people do turn there noses up but I don't care, its better than meeting some random bloke in a club, which is sometimes worse than meeting people off the internet.
Only problem with chatrooms and forums is people can be who they want to be and not be at all like they are online in r/l, I was lucky with faysh as what he was like on chatroom is what he was like in r/l too.
Its funny as I just went on the chatroom for a laugh as I found it on phone and wondered what it was then I met faysh oh and his ex too, she was such a bunny boiler infact thats why we started chatting because I said something and she got all weird so faysh started chatting to me in private conversation about her explaining that she is a bunny boiler lol.
Streeteh
13-01-2009, 12:23
I know of noone that has met through the internet, but i have noticed an interesting trend. Now many couples i know of began flirting via the internet, i guess it's a good medium for people that are nervous around the opposite sex; the internet acts as a buffer. It'll be interesting to see whether currently stereotyped activities such as internet dating will become more socially acceptable over the coming years, i see no difference between that and other more 'acceptable' ways of finding a partner.
I can understand why people need some form of help when meeting the opposite sex being an incredibly nervous person myself. Fortunately i relied on a much more traditional buffer when it came to asking my girlfriend (of around 5 years now, holy crap) out, alcahol.
I have in the past. But nothing serious ever came of it. Don't see the stigma attached, though the folks would tease me about it. However I do find online dating a little bit of a last resort IMO.. though people who work long hours or don't have teh opportunity to meet people I can completely understand the advantages - it's very hit and miss, and I quite like meeting people that my friends know it kinda gives you that comfort, but at the same time the pressure that everyone's watching you! lol!
Leon and I have been together nearly 7 years and met on OcUK. We chatted for 6 months just as mates before we decided that we might want something more and met. We're a perfect match :) In all honesty, if the people I'm telling are just aquaintences and aren't going to be long-term friends, I just say we met when I was at Uni.. which is the truth because we did. It's a lot less hassle. All my friends and work colleagues know though. Once you explain it, they at least pretend they understand :p
My brother met his girlfriend via a dating site for general outdoorsy types. They seem to be a perfect match and I genuinely believe that he couldn't have met someone like that any other way. He has involvement with taking kids on outdoor trips (Duke of Edinburgh), but he's very shy and lost a lot of confidence when he split with his ex, so this was an ideal way for him.
I have 2 other friends who met online. One via Hot or Not (iirc) and one via Faceparty (and they've been married 2 years now!).
I still can't help feeling that my "Real Life" friends look down on it, but I couldn't give a toss really :)
Pumpkinstew
13-01-2009, 14:27
You think meeting on an overclockers forum is bad? I know a couple who met on the Bristol Rovers Supporters Club forum! Double the stigma.
I met mine the old fashioned way. I went to a friends party and she slapped a beer in my hand and said 'Those three over there are all lovely and single. Get to it.' ;D
I was seeing someone I'd met through Faceparty at the time though :o
Half a \o.
Pumpkinstew
13-01-2009, 14:33
It'll be interesting to see whether currently stereotyped activities such as internet dating will become more socially acceptable over the coming years.
The widespread adoption of social networking sites has altered perceptions massively already, although I think there's still a stigma around dating agencies, whether they're online or not.The clever ones dress themselves up as something other than dating sites to get around that.
The thing is on here the proportion is going to be disproportionate as we are more technology/internet based and thats' how we all met one another. I think for the main part in general people still tend to meet out and about rather than on the internet, no?
I'd agree with that, Will. So us internetties are still freaks, even in this day and age :D
Davey_Pitch
13-01-2009, 15:05
I didn't meet Lynnie online, but I did meet my ex through a chat room, and we were together over 5 years and ended up getting married, and then divorced. I certainly don't look down on it and if I were single now I'm sure I'd do internet dating as I'm not the most confident person when it comes to chatting up women, but via the internet I can be myself easily.
Well didn't meet over the internet, I was hammered and in a nightclub, but I'd say it certainly had an influence, we only went to Santa Barbara because on Facebook there were loads of hot girls there. And with a transatlantic relationship, if it wasn't for the internet, communication (VOIP, IM, social networking, e-mail etc), would be far, far more difficult than it has been.
So although we didn't meet on-line, I very much doubt we would be together if it wasn't for the good ol' t'internet :)
Davey_Pitch
13-01-2009, 15:28
watch out Lynne, Davey's chatting up birds on t'interweb :p
Only you hunny :x
I suppose technically Piggy and I didn't really meet online either. It was only the forums that put us in the same place at the same time. Before we met in the pub, we'd not chatted to each other at all, apart from a couple of posts in the meet organising thread.
Once we were in the pub we just got chatting, Piggy bought me a drink and I repaid her by being awesome and well worth a pull.
\o
Pickster and I are another set :)
We met through fluke really, and me being an annoying little Sister ;D
Picky and my Bro were in a Team Fortress Clan together (SWUK - Shadow Warriors UK - Bwahahahaha!) and used to talk tactics and things over ICQ. I decided it would be funny to nick a couple of people from my Bros ICQ and speak to them on mine - originally thinking they would be people from his school. One of the nicked people turned out to be Picky, who lived in Cornwall (I was in Dorset).
All of this made my Brother uber angry, so, just to annoy him that little bit more I obtained Pickys, and a couple of other peoples, telephone numbers and put them in my address book ;D This made me fall victim to many-a-scraps with my Bro! Hehehehe!
Little did I know that my Ma was planning a surprise birthday party for me and decided to call all the people in my address book and invite them. She ended up speaking to Pickys Ma, and after a nice long convo they arranged for Picky and his friend to come up for the surprise!!
So yeh! First time I met him was at my surprise birthday party!! I was like "I know you... OMG! You're from the internet!!"
Was quite odd really because there were these internet people... and there were my RL friends. Just turning 16, I used to have it ripped from me being a nerd as it was so I just didn't really know where to put myself/how to explain to others who these people were and how they'd managed to get here (I didn't know myself!)
Initially I ended up dating a complete moron from the net though and learned the hard way that not everyone is nice on the web. Luckily for me, this Picky boy (who I fancied the pants off, but figured he wouldn't be interested in me at all, specially seeing as he lived a couple hundred miles away ;D) came to my rescue :D
Think we've been together 8 years now :)
I have to admit though, if people ask how we met I'm a bit like Kate and unless they're fellow internetee's just say "We met through my Brother".
All of this made my Brother uber angry, so, just to annoy him that little bit more I obtained Pickys, and a couple of other peoples, telephone numbers and put them in my address book ;D This made me fall victim to many-a-scraps with my Bro! Hehehehe!
Little did I know that my Ma was planning a surprise birthday party for me and decided to call all the people in my address book and invite them. She ended up speaking to Pickys Ma, and after a nice long convo they arranged for Picky and his friend to come up for the surprise!!
;D That is one of the best "meeting" stories I've heard ;D
Knipples
13-01-2009, 15:40
You think meeting on an overclockers forum is bad? I know a couple who met on the Bristol Rovers Supporters Club forum! Double the stigma.
Erm. Bad time to tell you ive had a couple of boyfriends due to meeting them on the city forum then?
Got chatting to bunch of people on msn through the empireonline forums. Really great bunch of people and I ended up chatting to 1 of the woman more and more. After talking online and on the phone I agreed to drive down to Cardiff (from Leicester) to see her for her birthday. She then turned bunner boiler on me :( A week or so later I was out on the town with friends when I got a text from her friend asking where I was and why I hadn't mentioned that I was going out that night :huh: as I had had a few drinks I told girl to go forth and procreate and it got a lot worse.
A couple of days later I was helping a (girl) friend move house when bunny boiler started texting me, I ignored the texts so she phoned and let it ring once. She then texted to say that obviously my phone worked so my am I not replying. :confused:
Thankfully she never knew exactly where I lived and have had no contact with her since. This was a couple of years ago now. Oh, and I've never posted on empireonline since either, shame, as it was good place to go and have a laugh with some decent posters :(
I must really attract the crazy ones as my last few ex's have been a bit mental also.
;D That is one of the best "meeting" stories I've heard ;D
Tis quite bizarre ;D
Picky should be thankful I am annoying, else I would never of met him ;D
It was through my Bro I actually became aware of OCUK too and eventually this place! He was PJ.UK on OCUK and when he left for Uni I ended up getting in a pickle with my poota so signed up to OCUK to get some help... and yeh. That's it really. Picky then used OCUK a fair bit for poota stuff and then general stuff, we spoke lots to this funny up north monkey (aka Von ;)) and then Unky Vonny informed us of over here!
So really, I have my Bro to thank for a hubby to be and some darn good friends :D
I suppose technically Piggy and I didn't really meet online either. It was only the forums that put us in the same place at the same time. Before we met in the pub, we'd not chatted to each other at all, apart from a couple of posts in the meet organising thread.
Once we were in the pub we just got chatting, Piggy bought me a drink and I repaid her by being awesome and well worth a pull.
Same as us really, Phil and I met at the Leeds meet, although we didn't become a couple until years later :)
My mate Big Tony met his Mrs. through IRC many many years ago, they only met physically a few times before they got married and they're still together.
She's an American, he's a Brit and he moved to Americee to marry her.
I met my ex online. We were on the same gaming forum, and he added me on MSN one Saturday afternoon because he was bored. :p
We used to play various MMORPGs and Counterstrike together. Then he came down and met me. We were together about a year and a half.
Also been out for a drink with a guy I met playing Counterstrike a few years back.
Certainly wouldn't be adverse to using the net for dating again but I don't think I'd go out of my way to look. I'd say it works better if you develop a friendship first so internet dating sites don't seem like my sort of thing.
Although Iain and I didn't meet for the first time online we never really spoke in real life. We met at airsoft but he thought my brother was actually my boyfriend! Yuck! :(
I randomly added someone on msn and just happened to mention airsoft and he said his friend played, asked if I knew him etc. Turns out it was Iain and he gave me his msn addy and we spoke for hours on end. :)
3 years on we've got a house, a kitty cat and ratties. A big happy family! :) lol.
I've also been stalked over the internet three times. Once by Iain's ex, once by a french lesbian and once by an Indian yoga teacher who wanted me to visit him in India and become his wife! :confused:
Certainly wouldn't be adverse to using the net for dating again but I don't think I'd go out of my way to look. I'd say it works better if you develop a friendship first so internet dating sites don't seem like my sort of thing.
Couldn't agree more... it feels a bit "forced" to me for some reason.
I think the same would go for me for any dating agency though, be it online or offline. But it's easy for me to say that when I'm in a happy relationship. If I were single and couldn't meet Mr Right then I might see it differently.
All depends what works for the individual though :)
i met my OH on a forum based in glasgow's alternative "scene" if you will.
but it involved alot of real work bumping into and friends of friends due to being such a small geographic area and interest pool.
goldilocks
13-01-2009, 17:49
o/
met on myspace (friend of a friend), chatted on msn / mobile, met irl a week later, married 2 years and 9 months after that!
Pumpkinstew
13-01-2009, 18:05
Erm. Bad time to tell you ive had a couple of boyfriends due to meeting them on the city forum then?
Not at all. Good way of making sure they aren't a gashead!:D
Knipples
13-01-2009, 18:14
Not at all. Good way of making sure they aren't a gashead!:D
Urgh!
I dont think I could ever lower myself to THAT level
*shudders*
:D
TinkerBell
13-01-2009, 18:26
/raises hand
I've never understood the stigma about meeting online. What difference does it make how you met someone?
/puts hand up
:D
Facebook \O/ :)
Twice now ;D
/puts hand up
:D
Must.
Avoid.
Innuendo.
Greenlizard0
14-01-2009, 00:53
When I was a young chap looking to do some "morning after strutting" the thought of bringing the internet into the bar was unheard of and wouldn't have entered the conversation.
Yet so often now, one of the things I hear from drunk people or those who've had lots, is "are you on [Facebook/Myspace/zzzz]", I'm sure a whole lot things happen that way (i.e. get to *know* somebody) before e.g. another meeting. Therefore now I think that the net is a really important cog for the whole scene in general.
\o
Luv n hugs to Facebook!
I've had two almost-1-year-long relationships with people I met in the intermaweb. Tis all good fun :)
I can understand people meeting off forums or dating sites, but Facebook?!! What, do you randomly add people to your profile or what?! :p
I met some former SO's online. I liked it...I got to know the person they were before being distracted by their physical hotness or not so hotness.
I met Garp in person though:-)
TinkerBell
14-01-2009, 08:28
Must.
Avoid.
Innuendo.
You cheeky sod!!!! :shocked:
Shocking behaviour from you Iain! Although I should expect it from you :p
I met some former SO's online.
What on earth is an SO? :bloody confused:
What on earth is an SO? :bloody confused:
Significant Other
Dymetrie
14-01-2009, 12:17
What on earth is an SO? :bloody confused:
A Senior Officer of course :p
Suprisingly enough (for me and my friends at least) I've never got together with anyone from the interent, I've never thought my personality comes through quite the same as in real life.
Current girlfriend is my mate's sister :O
the_dead_parrot
14-01-2009, 23:06
I have never met a partner on a forum as usually they are sausage fests, times are not quite that bleak...yet! I did meet my previous partner on faceparty, it lasted nearly 4 years. Though I never told anyone we met online as it seemed a bit geeky but I suppose I am a bit geeky so it was to be expected surely. I was thinking about trying the internet dating game.
I can understand people meeting off forums or dating sites, but Facebook?!! What, do you randomly add people to your profile or what?! :p
Yeah I'm not entirely sure about that either!
I was thinking about trying the internet dating game.
Do it, it rawks :D
With regards to the FB thing, I know of someone who added the "Are You Interested" application, and from that you can see who viewed your profile and if they left you a message or something, think thats how it works anyway.
Do it, it rawks :D
With regards to the FB thing, I know of someone who added the "Are You Interested" application, and from that you can see who viewed your profile and if they left you a message or something, think thats how it works anyway.
Yup, that's how it worked for me :)
I can understand people meeting off forums or dating sites, but Facebook?!! What, do you randomly add people to your profile or what?! :p
It could be a friend of a friend I guess. Wouldn't know off hand as I don't really use Facebook much compared to most.
Yup, that's how it worked for me :)
And us:D
Kell_ee001
16-01-2009, 00:26
I've never met a partner online and apart from you crazy lot, don't know anyone that has tbh. I wouldn't rule it out as a place to meet people but I think I'd have to get on with them very well online before I'd be willing to date them :)
I've never met a partner online and apart from you crazy lot, don't know anyone that has tbh. I wouldn't rule it out as a place to meet people but I think I'd have to get on with them very well online before I'd be willing to date them :)
Thats what it was like for me, I never knew anyone who had met online and I almost chickened out of meeting faysh cos I was a bit worried :o
But I am soooo glad I didn't and I owe it to my mate's ex as he pushed me into going.
I got on so well and loved chatting with faysh and spent hours on the phone for most nights for about 6weeks before I met him :)
i met my OH on a forum based in glasgow's alternative "scene" if you will.
but it involved alot of real work bumping into and friends of friends due to being such a small geographic area and interest pool.
scratch that, the internet sucks, so do women (me bitter much?)
i met my OH on a forum based in glasgow's alternative "scene" if you will.
Hanging outside the royal exchange square then? ;)
NokkonWud
18-01-2009, 14:14
I've met plenty of people who I've spoken to online and only once have I feared for my life :p.
Kell_ee001
18-01-2009, 19:58
I've met plenty of people who I've spoken to online and only once have I feared for my life :p.
Someone you dated made you fear for your life?! :shocked: :p
Kell_ee001
18-01-2009, 20:41
OMG, I had NO idea that you two dated?!?!
/:p
I swear, we haven't honey! :shocked: I'm saving myself for yooouuu! :confused: Promise! :o
Met someone in California over the net - boy she was fun :)
Knipples
18-01-2009, 21:06
I swear, we haven't honey! :shocked: I'm saving myself for yooouuu! :confused: Promise! :o
Um you said that to me the other day.....hussy! :D
Hanging outside the royal exchange square then? ;)
that was many many years ago.
then i found pubs that would serve me and my mates at 16 :P
Kell_ee001
18-01-2009, 21:20
Um you said that to me the other day.....hussy! :D
:numpty:
that was many many years ago.
then i found pubs that would serve me and my mates at 16 :P
What pub was that then? Your only a year younger than me, good chance I beat you to it :cool:
Beansprout
19-01-2009, 22:11
Me and my gf met online....few years later she's now over here for uni \o/ :D
Met my now ex wife online in a yahoo chat room and even though she turned into a nasty piece of work at the end wouldn't have issues with meeting someone irl if i met them again on the net. Although if it happens again prefer them to be part geek or understand the ways of the geek relating to computers :p
Me and the bloke met on Lj. Then I went out on the lash with a friend and she introduced us but I don't remember anything about it as I was trolleyed. He remembers it though! Then we talked on the internet a bit more, then I met him again and realised I fancied the pants off him.
Met my fiancee through Myspace, oddly neither of us were particularly looking for anyone at the time, just sort of worked out that way. Although I'll admit, I noticed that fine pair of boobies instantly, like most men do..
Love of my life, far smarter than me, as one of my mates put it recently "jammy bastard you really hit the jackpot." ;D Been together about 2 years, get married in Sept this year.
Some of my mates have had some very, very mixed experiences when using online dating agencies, thankfully I never had to use them as my workplaces have always been fairly social (schools, dental hospitals, hospitals, etc. so always teachers and nurses!).
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