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Pebs
05-03-2009, 10:17
...with a sister who steals from you?
No doubt at all, but short of searching her there's no way to prove it. She used to do it a lot but I hardly see her these days. She's 30 now, sadly nothing has changed :(
loki
05-03-2009, 10:26
Thats a real Bummber Pebs. If you dont mind me asking, what are her circumstances Pebs. My sister used to steal a lot off my Gran many years ago and for her it was a cry for attention more than actually needing the money.
Von Smallhausen
05-03-2009, 12:08
Get some special ink that colours the fingers after a certain time.
Chuckles
05-03-2009, 12:10
Was it anything of value?
Pebs
05-03-2009, 12:13
Money. She's only down here as it was my grandads funeral yesterday, she's going back today.
Desmo
05-03-2009, 12:23
Not much you can do I guess. I think I'd be inclined to let her know I know about it though.
Dee
05-03-2009, 12:33
Ditto Desmo and loki. Is she struggling for cash most of the time?

Or does she not want you to think she is struggling, is she too proud to ask for help? I am just asumming here, sorry if I am way off the mark.
Chuckles
05-03-2009, 15:59
Money. She's only down here as it was my grandads funeral yesterday, she's going back today.

If you are positive it's her, you should confront her.
Del Lardo
05-03-2009, 16:25
If you think confronting her will make any difference then go for it but it's part of her character then likelyhood is that she'll deny it and there's bugger all else you can do short of going to the Police.

You may want to chalk it down to experience and next time she's around make sure your bag/purse is somewhere safe or kept on you.
Pebs
05-03-2009, 17:29
She does it because...well....that's just what she's like. She's taken things before, cosmetics money and perfume etc. Every time I see her I hope things have changed and they never have. Compulsive lying etc is par fir the course.
Jonny69
06-03-2009, 09:58
Call the police :)
Tiggy
06-03-2009, 10:40
I know it's not the same, but I had a friend who was a compulsive liar and stole some money from me.

I'd spoken to his family (the few that hadn't disowned him) and we arranged an intervention meeting.

If I were you I'd try and say something. But I know how hard it can be to do that :(
Pebs
06-03-2009, 15:39
She's gone now and I probably won't see her again until a parental pops off this mortal coil. Or maybe summer when my Dad is 60, although we're not talking either lol!

Funny how you think your family is quite normal until you REALLY think about it, then you realise what a disfunctional band of weirdos you really are.
iCraig
06-03-2009, 15:47
You know your sister better than of us really, but I would have cooly asked her for the money back and tell her that if she's short, she only needs to ask and you'll help her out, but if she takes it, it will be taken back. If it's spent before you find out, you'll take an item off her of value, to get it into her head you don't just take things.
Blighter
06-03-2009, 16:01
You know your sister better than of us really, but I would have cooly asked her for the money back and tell her that if she's short, she only needs to ask and you'll help her out, but if she takes it, it will be taken back. If it's spent before you find out, you'll take an item off her of value, to get it into her head you don't just take things.

^^ This.


I know it's not the same but when my sister was little she was always nicking stuff from me (like chocolate, toys, etc) so whenever she did, I took something of hers for a day (like her favourite teddy or something). She didn't get the message until I decapitated one of her barbie dolls in front of her ;D;D
Greenlizard0
06-03-2009, 17:02
Funny how you think your family is quite normal until you REALLY think about it, then you realise what a disfunctional band of weirdos you really are.

Yeap, I used to laugh at those kind of issues whenever they appeared on soap operas...but years later...
Belmit
06-03-2009, 21:24
If it was my brother I'd confront him no question. But then subconciously we know not to do that kind of thing to one another, even outside of moral guidelines. I guess it helps that we were quite close as kids and have grown an immense amount of mutual respect.

Edit: That made it sound like we'd steal from anyone else! What I meant was, we know it's wrong to steal, but to steal from each other would have far-reaching implications outside the norm.