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Right. I am confused on so many levels it's unbelievable.
I know the world isn't a fairy tale, especially when it comes to relationship, love and romance. I guess that's why I don't have a big heart for romcoms... I think science fiction has more reality in it than many romcoms. But yeh... I try to not let my experiences taint too much of my perspective on peoples relationships but I just sometimes cannot comprehend why people live the lives they do.
Why is it... people stay in relationships despite the fact deep down they're not truly happy? I know it's not easy to break with people and there's a routine and comfort blanket element there but really? How? Why? I just... I couldn't do it. I just want to be happy and I want those around me to be happy too. If I had a partner and I was unhappy with them and felt I couldn't give them all they needed and deserved, I couldn't stay with them. Even if it meant losing everything, I couldn't do it (I say this from experience).
Over the years I have witnessed so many affairs too. So many drunken snogs and people sneaking around. Our office is riddled. It's like a spidersweb of affairs and love triangles. They're messy and yet, so many I have seen (and I hang my head in shame and admit I have even been involved in one myself), it seems that people have a tendency to return to their unhappy lives with partners and what not at the end of the day and remain miserable?
Why???! Why do they do this? Why are they accepted back? Not all the time, obviously, but I would say vast majority do? Are we just a ball-less nation of nimwits?!
For me, life is about living. It's about getting what you can out of it. You only live once. So many people know that and so... why do so many people fall into these routines? Why do they take it as "ah well, it's just how life is?"? Is there such a thing as true love? Do people stay in love - what is love in some respect?
For me. I have little faith in love in the romantic sense any more. I think we can all get caught up in the moment for the first few months, maybe a couple of years if you're lucky and be head over heels for the person you're with... but eventually it will die out and become routine and the same old. I think you can still love them... but rarely romantically. I just... I see it everywhere. I think there's only one couple I know who I would consider to still be in love after 25+ years of marriage. Still whisper things in each others ears which makes the other giggle, still fall into each others arms and don't take a blind bit of notice about anyone else in the room and kiss, still cuddle on the sofa, leave romantic notes, send loving messages, go out together alone and not feel they need the company of others to enjoy themselves, always want to be with one another and share experiences, surprise each other. Of all the people I know, they're the only couple I can think of who are still madly in love. I rarely see romantic love anymore unless it's in the first months or years.
This. This makes me so sad. It really does. I have been burnt a fair few times which I think isn't helping me but just... why!? Why do people live in lives they're unhappy with. And is there such a thing as true romantic love? Or is it more lust? It confuses me how people can be married and don't sleep together. Don't have a good smooch from time to time any more. Don't do romantic intimate things? Am I just a loving huggy person who likes smooches and rudies too much?! Because I just think I would be so unhappy in a relationship with no rudies or physical intimacy. I think it's a vital part of a happy relationship... is it not?!
I don't want to break. I don't want to fall into the trap of being in a relationship that's okay. I want to be swept off my feet and stay swept off my feet!! Am I a dreamer?!
Meh.
I am totally going to be the lonely old lady on my road in a falling down house who eats too many tins of napollena tomatoes and bakes awesome cookies. I can just sense it!
Everything you've just said pretty much sums up a situation I have found myself in over the past few weeks. As such I may be about to do something some might consider foolish! Not wrong, not anything bad, just... something that might make me feel rotten for a long time if it doesn't go well.
I know what you mean though - settling down shouldn't be about just settling.
TinkerBell
19-04-2011, 19:00
I am totally going to be the lonely old lady on my road in a falling down house who eats too many tins of napollena tomatoes and bakes awesome cookies. I can just sense it!
I think this is the main reason why most people stay together. Better the evil you know than you don't is also another one.
I think most people think that the real one for them isn't really out there and they take what they can get!!
Belmit - hope you're okay. If you need time out come hither and we will have merriment :) Big hugs x
Tink - which is SO SO SAD! So sad! It breaks my heart why people won't break free and go out into the big world and try and better their lives and happiness - and others! I'd rather be alone and happy in myself knowing I am not living a lie or just an okay life than with someone and be dreaming out a window. How can people want to be with others when they're in their relationship... but then stay in their relationship?!?!? On my death bed I would be disappointed I lost my spark, my hope and faith in finding true happiness. I can't do that.
Knipples
19-04-2011, 20:20
Having seen what my Dad has put my Mum through (for those that don't know he is an alcoholic) has had unfortunate consequences for me, because I won't put up with any crap (and I mean inconsequential stuff) and have therefore spent most of the last 4+ years single.
Also I fell in love with someone I couldnt have in my mid twenties, and that has left me somewhat scarred, because for a very long time afterwards, I was still in love with him, part of me always will be, but I have also realised I can't keep letting him rob me of anymore of my life, he made his decision years ago, and I should have realised that sooner.
I believe though that there's not one single person in this world for you, I believe there are different people for you at different stages of your life. I also believe that men and women aren't designed to be with one person forever (just some are able to manage it)
I'd like to meet someone, and settle down with a sprog or two, however I realised that i'd prefer the kids rather than a man who will just let me down in years to come, like my Mum has had done to her time and time again. (God I sound so bitter, life has damaged me, but at least I can see that now, I just don't know what to do about it) So I have also contemplated having the babies on my own. Not that I would ever trick anyone into that. I can't see where that person will come from though, or sometimes how they would fit into my life, which is already quite full.
Christ this is probably the most serious post I have made on here. :o
Christ this is probably the most serious post I have made on here. :o
I'll lighten it up for you... and suggest I'll father your babies :D
*hasn't figured any further than the said above statement*
Afterall we're getting married!
It's amazing how much affect past relationships have. It really is. You'll find someone lass. I know you will :) x
I don't know, I think there are exceptions. Immediate top of head examples: Matt & H for long term marrieds, Kate & Leon, Me & Leo for fairly long term relationships without marriage... I'd not stay if not happy - hell I left my husband after 9 months of marriage and the whole white wedding shebang because I knew it wasn't right and I'm never going to 'settle'. If it's not working, I'm out, is just the way it is.
Dont forget, just because you don't see intimacy doesn't mean it isn't there. Some people never sniffed (sniffed? WTF autocorrect, they aint dogs! - SNOGGED) or kissed & cuddled with a roomful - it's a hidden wink across the room or a sly smile, watching someone you love and feeling that flutter - you won't see that either - but it's there.
Although I don't buy into 'the one' - sometimes, you meet someone at the right time and circumstances bring you closer together & you grow together. Others, you grow apart. or get ripped apart by life. People come into your life, some stay, some don't and I genuinely think whether they do or not comes down to a tiny ripple on a butterfly's wing. Chaos theory :)
But...you hold your one fate in your own hands. Choose what to do with it, but don't waste it on second best. Everyone should be as happy as they can be, for as long as they can be. That's my philosophy anyway, just look at my sig ;)
Coming up 9 years from me and Lom (erp!!) and I can remember the day we met for real after talking online, like it was yesterday, seeing her looking all confused and gorgeous behind the ticket barrier at Marylebone station.
I still get the "wowzer!" feeling when I look at her, (she'll probably slap me for this), not every day but most days.
We've had our ups and downs (mainly due to me...), and there's been times when we've both been on the verge of calling it off but we never do. Despite nights spent sleeping on the sofa or in the car, we always make up eventually. (I tell her I like sleeping "rough" like that, it appeals to the wild caveman in me, like camping!)
Even though this might sound like one of her Frapes, it's not. I'd be lost without her, she makes me happy!!
Sorry when I said there's hardly anyone I know, I refer to RL people (people I see regularly ie weekly/day to day) :) Don't want anyone offended by my post!!
Oh I see. Boo. I was hoping to brighten your expectations a little x
volospian
20-04-2011, 20:04
I'm happy :) (despite the best efforts of someone at my work :()
I want to be swept off my feet and stay swept off my feet!! Am I a dreamer?!
A dreamer? No. But I would say there are VERY few people who find that type of relationship. Something that stays THAT fresh for many many years.
I can only go by our relationship, but we're happy. We've had plenty of ups and very few downs in our 6 years together, we just seem to work together and there's not really much effort involved in our relationship. As I said in my wedding speech, it just feels effortless and therefore right. Maybe that is a bad thing in some ways as we don't then have to work at "wooo'ing" each other all that often although at the moment there isn't much time for anything anyway ;D
Do I believe in love at first sight? Nope. Do I believe that there is only one person out there for me on this planet? Nope. Do I think I've found someone who is the closest I'm ever likely to find as my perfect match? Yes. Maybe that doesn't sound too romantic (what can I say, I'm a bloke and it's not really my thing), but I believe that on the whole, Sinead is the most perfect woman I'm ever likely to come across for me.
So whilst no relationship will ever be 100% perfect...we still hold hands, we still do silly things, we still play fight, we still play argue, we're still the best of friends and we still tell each other "I love you" :)
There comes a point when you crave the comfort and security of a steady, grown-up relationship. The thrill of a new relationship is addictive but it really does wear off.
People want different things, your settling is their contentment, your mundane is their security. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors other than the two people in the relationship :)
Do you know what I like about this thread... the happy people :D
You boys - you're big gayers! ;) Lucky ladies and matches :)
I think for me... I'm a dreamer... Don't think that will change much. Just don't want to give in to something I don't feel happy 100% in. I can understand ups and downs and what. But people who are continuously unhappy... I don't understand that. And I never want that to happen to me.
Someone shove this thread under my face if I am ever to get married. It will either do one of two things - make me laugh at my self or make me call off the wedding!!
volospian
21-04-2011, 08:58
lol, I wasn't going to post this much, but nevermind...
Personally I think you just haven't met that person yet. I'm like Desmo in that I don't necessarily believe there is only one match for a person. There are lots, the problem lies in the fact that you must also be a match for them, so it halves your chances, so to speak.
It's funny, I once went out with a woman who I believed that I loved as much as anybody could love. I believed that I would walk through fire for her, and I would have. However, now I have met Sue, it's different. It's hard to explain the difference, but for Sue, the fire simply wouldn't exist... with the other girl I wouldn't think twice about it, now I wouldn't even think once about it, it would just be instinctive.
I now realise that what I felt before was the desire to love someone to distraction, rather than the kind of subconcious feeling of "right". It's like a jigsaw. Before, the fit between the two pieces looked correct, but only now I have a much bigger picture do I realise that it wasn't the right part in the right place.
Do you see what I mean? I think sometimes we feel we should be in love, so we pretent to ourselves that we are. Then you get the heartache when you realise that things aren't working out. You think "but this person is the love of my life..." and so on when, really, they probably aren't.
I think "the love of your life" is the person you, to paraphrase Desmo a bit, "just seem to work with". I think real "true love" is something that you barely even notice is there, because the feeling is instinctive, not reasoned. I also think that a lot of people go through life without even realising who they are really "in love" with.
Which brings me to lust. Beware of confusing love with lust. Lust is just an obsessive physical desire to "get it on" with someone and is not the same thing as love. I know a lot of people, especially when I was younger, who broke up and said "but I LOVE them, with all my heart..." and what they really meant was "but I want to **** them, with all my body..."
I fell into this trap once and spent about 3 months in a really stormy relationship with a girl. I couldn't get enough of her body, but when we weren't in bed, we argued... ferociously. When we split up I realised that I had never loved her, nor even really liked her in any way that should have ever got past a basic friendship, I just wanted to bang her like a loose gate in a gale (that is to say, loudly and repeatedly, all night long..;D).
I'm not saying that physical attraction is not an important part of a long term relationship, just that it's quite common for the person you have loved the most to be a different person from the one you have lusted after the most ;)
Matblack
21-04-2011, 09:19
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love" which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
— Louis de Bernières (http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/2313.Louis_de_Berni_res)
The next line (I just looked it up) is
"But sometimes the petals fall away and the roots have not entwined"
And this I suspect is true just as I firmly believe the first part is true, passion or lust can be the first part of a relationship but the ongoing partnership has to be more than that alone because despite what people tell you passion is important but partnership and mutual understanding and to a certain extend reliance are essential in my option. :)
We had this read at our wedding (we had already been together for quite a while), I firmly believe it is the case with Heather and I am it still makes me well up when I read it, especially the line "we found that we were one tree and not two"
MB
After my marriage broke down I realised that things rarely last forever. Sometimes people grow up together, and sometimes they grow up apart. If you're lucky you'll grow in the same way and still fit years later, if not then it becomes uncomfortable.
I was with my kids father for 16 years. I'd always thought we'd be together for ever but we just grew apart. I still love him to death and he's my best friend but it just didn't work that way anymore. It was incredibly painful parting but it was the best thing for both of us. The future that I had built no longer existed.
When I got together with Paul my whole outlook had changed and I take every day as it comes. Yes we get on now, but I will never again think that 'this is it.' I am very much of the opinion that it works now but may not a few years down the line.
I'm perfectly happy with this outlook as it has made me a stronger person and far less likely to settle for something that doesn't make me truly happy.
If I end up an old lady in a house full of cats then I'm perfectly content with that. I have my friends and family and a relationship is just the icing on the cake.
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love" which any fool can do.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
You've quoted that before.....and I love it :)
After my marriage broke down I realised that things rarely last forever. Sometimes people grow up together, and sometimes they grow up apart. If you're lucky you'll grow in the same way and still fit years later, if not then it becomes uncomfortable.
I was with my kids father for 16 years. I'd always thought we'd be together for ever but we just grew apart. I still love him to death and he's my best friend but it just didn't work that way anymore. It was incredibly painful parting but it was the best thing for both of us. The future that I had built no longer existed.
When I got together with Paul my whole outlook had changed and I take every day as it comes. Yes we get on now, but I will never again think that 'this is it.' I am very much of the opinion that it works now but may not a few years down the line.
I'm perfectly happy with this outlook as it has made me a stronger person and far less likely to settle for something that doesn't make me truly happy.
If I end up an old lady in a house full of cats then I'm perfectly content with that. I have my friends and family and a relationship is just the icing on the cake.
Pretty much my outlook too :) Enjoy it while it lasts. If it stays good, you're lucky. If it doesn't, let it go.
What happens in the first few months of a relationship, that honeymoon period, seems to me to be more lust than love. Love is what comes after, once you're able to see past the shining armor and see the flaws, and yet still find yourself in love with the person. Hollywood presents us this image of Love as fireworks going off on the first kiss, with a full orchestra playing dramatic stirring music and so on. It's "Fall in love, all your problems go away", or gives you the asinine notion that love is easy and straightforward. The reality is that love takes work. Like any fire it needs regular fueling and tending, by both parties for themselves and their partners.
I've had difficulty explaining this in the past, but I'll give it a shot here. Back in '03 I met a wonderful girl, beautiful, charming, sweet as can be, and I fell head-over-heals for her, and to my utter and ongoing amazement she thought I was awesome too. We were coming up on 2 years together when I started wondering about the relationship and our future, and I came to the realisation that I either needed to break up with her or marry her.. It took me a while to realise that whilst I thought the world of her (and still do), it wasn't love. I could so easily have gone down the wrong path there, and missed out on what I have now.
The first time I saw Kari I was leading worship at church. When you're doing that your mind is split in many directions, musically and spiritually. It's a juggling act.
Kari walked in and I suddenly found it hard not to stare in her direction. I don't think I screwed up too badly with the rest of the worship, but it made what is usually a tricky job even harder. There was an instant heart-stopping attraction that has remained with me since day one. There is little in this world that brings me even a fraction of the joy of seeing her smile. Do I believe in love at first sight? No. Attraction, yes, lust, certainly, but not love. The love grew later the more time I spent with her, e-mailed and so on, as I discovered that she wasn't only beautiful, but wonderful too.
At the same time I realised what depth I'd been missing in previous relationships. I'd be lying if I said we never disagree on things. Arguments are rare with us, but we don't always see eye to eye on everything, which is great. We're still learning each other's love languages, trying to understand them on an instinctive level. I know Kari likes little gifts and compliments... I'm good at the latter but the former not so much.
Every and any relationship requires on-going work, be it friendships, love, work or whatever. It just seems to me as I look around and see other relationships that falter and fail that more often than not (but not always) one or other (or both) people involved in the relationship just aren't working at it. *shrug*
Piggymon
21-04-2011, 20:11
I love my husband muchly :)
Knipples
21-04-2011, 20:44
Its not that I wouldn't like to meet someone, and I would happily have it turn out the way it is once all the initial lust has worn off, but I just never seem to find myself in opportunities to meet men.
I really miss someone to give me a hug when i've had a difficult day at work, or ask me how my day was, or just someone to pay me the odd compliment, I just don't know how to go about finding it. :huh:
I wish you had a nice guy too. You deserve it x I love this thread is making me happy to feel the love in the room ;)
Things I believe in
Never stop chasing your dreams
Never stop stop dating your partner. Even when you are married, never stop the chase.
I find it difficult to put down my feelings openly online for the world to see but unfortunately (or fortunately, as I can't being myself to be that bad boy), i am that romantic guy, i am that guy who rather be in love. I am also rather be alone than with someone I am not 100% happy with. It is a blessing that i am busy these days as it I don't have time to stop to think about that i am alone.
I can't offer much help as I have a very skewed view on relationships - however I don't think there is a "one" for everyone (there is for some clearly) - but sometimes you are with someone for a period of time, and you just need to accept it and get the best out of it whilst you are there together in one another's lives.
Live your life, nullum desiderium, and try not to worry about what might or might not happen.
camerajuan
30-04-2011, 03:52
I never worried about what might happen, then my gf of 2 years cheated on me.
I moved on. Got on with my life after a while of being a ridiculous human being and found someone by pure chance when I went to Bulgaria in 2008. 2 1/2 years of rosy awesomeness. Absolute bliss. Could not be happier.
She tonight, after I voiced the way I feel about her chastising me, in exactly the same tone of voice she used whenever she decides what I have just said is wrong - even if its just an opinion - has ended it.
Top it all off, I went out for a walk to calm down and a bunch of Kok'edds decided I was their target tonight and attacked me. £10 down and a lovely bloodied head.
Worst night of my life.
Sorry to hear that dude :( *manly hugs*
Ouch - sorry to hear such bad news juan... *hugs with manly back slaps*
camerajuan
30-04-2011, 12:27
After a lot of phonecalls & a little bit of self pitying, the only wound I now have from last night is on my head.
I am well & truly attached again. All is right. Sorry for the panic!
So 'were you on a break' ? ;D
Glad you're in a better way this morning :)
Ahhh dude :( Bad times, hoping you're holding your head up high :)
Refreshing to see some truly loved up peeps this weekend :) Really refreshing! I think the Police work industry is as incestuous as they come! Depressing environment!
/avoids all coppers in the future
(I know this will most likely be a fail as they're all a big part of my life! Rubbish!)
I think the Police work industry is as incestuous as they come! Depressing environment!
/avoids all coppers in the future
(I know this will most likely be a fail as they're all a big part of my life! Rubbish!)
I see this every day too, tis true!
I'm doomed I tell you, DOOMED! I have dated *counts*......3 coppers. 2 were AOK (one even wanted to marry me, the fool!), one fit the stereotype. In fact he may well have written the stereotype. I think his face is in the dictionary under 'coppers are gits'. And until recently I still worked with him Every Bloody Shift. Being his sgt should have been fun but it meant I had to actually talk to him, and be fair and professional. DAMMIT!
No more dating for me, my poor heart has had enough. My future is purple smocks and cat wee :)
Purple smocks and cat wee are the new black.
Well I think us three are destined for a kibbutz-style house situation at some point in the future?
Er....you've got a gorgeous Matt!!
TinkerBell
03-05-2011, 17:23
I was just thinking that!! :p
Yeah, but they all said it wouldn't last. :p There is a Paul too, but I'm sure they could live next door :D
Paul who?
Cats for the win!
*pulls out her purple polka frock and joins in*
I'm not a cat person as such. Can I be the dog lady? You know, the kind that walks around and looks like their pooch?
Kitten - I saw matts twinkly eye with you and the love hearts. It's LURVE! Nada will stop that!
Loads of pets, a lovely house full of ****e and ming and gallons of gin. I'm practically living it!
'One wants a wee...one's done a wee.' Must get off sofa next time.
And when we've used 'em all we'll just turn the cushions over.
Tysonator
19-05-2011, 21:54
Love is strange thing, we think we have and found it. Then the honey mood period ends and real life slowly takes over.
I think you do need to have with your partner, go out to different places, try different food, be teenagers again.
Life is about living and enjoying what you have.
Now things like work, mortgage, children etc can and will damped the living soul down to a mundane existence of work, dinner TV, bed.
NOOOOO stop that, do Orange Wednesday, do T-Mobile £5 deal, get 2-4-1 vouchers and try different restaurants, attractions etc.
Go explore another town, the country side on cycles, throw a BBQ, Jesus what ever really.
I write a list of things I like to do for the year, places to visit, holidays to go, events to be at and try to plan organise what ones I can within the limitations of work, annual leave, commitments, money etc.
So go fourth and enjoy !
volospian
20-05-2011, 08:51
I write a list of things I like to do for the year, places to visit, holidays to go, events to be at and try to plan organise what ones I can within the limitations of work, annual leave, commitments, money etc.
we do that too. It is nice to keep a focus on your private life and not get lost in the drudgery of work and chores.
Tysonator
20-05-2011, 19:35
Life is too short and there is so much out there to experience !
Piggymon
20-05-2011, 19:48
Love is strange thing, we think we have and found it. Then the honey mood period ends and real life slowly takes over.
I think you do need to have with your partner, go out to different places, try different food, be teenagers again.
Life is about living and enjoying what you have.
Now things like work, mortgage, children etc can and will damped the living soul down to a mundane existence of work, dinner TV, bed.
NOOOOO stop that, do Orange Wednesday, do T-Mobile £5 deal, get 2-4-1 vouchers and try different restaurants, attractions etc.
Go explore another town, the country side on cycles, throw a BBQ, Jesus what ever really.
I write a list of things I like to do for the year, places to visit, holidays to go, events to be at and try to plan organise what ones I can within the limitations of work, annual leave, commitments, money etc.
So go fourth and enjoy !
Good post :)
Tysonator
21-05-2011, 20:23
Piggymon, I am just telling it how it is really !
I've experienced very little in the past, got nothing now and the future looks empty so far :'(.
Tysonator
29-05-2011, 00:03
I've experienced very little in the past, got nothing now and the future looks empty so far :'(.
Only empty at the moment, no one can tell what is around hte corner ! :)
Only empty at the moment, no one can tell what is around hte corner ! :)
I've been turning the corner for a long, long time, not bumped into anything yet.
Sprinkles of dating and encounters with intimacy with long periods of nothing but focusing on my career and personal successes for the last couple years. Before that was a year long commitment that was not a real relationship where feelings were never reciprocated. I have my successes now - I'm on the road to where I want to be in my life and career, I've got some adventures planned out (my trip out there in a few weeks)... but I gotta say I miss being in a relationship. Older I get the harder I find it is to come across someone who wants the same things as you AND who you click with.
I've been getting bored of the men I date after a week or two. Does no one believe in passion and romance anymore? Come on boys, work for it - I'm worth it!
Cheers to the ladies who are on the same page :beer:
Awww big hugs Mel. Romantics are required... without being too soppy! Darnit!
I am a bit struck by cupids arrow at the moment.
Shock. Horror.
Seriously am a bit not really believing much at the moment! Trying to play it cool! We'll see :)
Justsomebloke
01-06-2011, 10:51
Trying to play it cool! We'll see :)
You Fail @ playing it cool. ;D;D;D Posting on Facebook is not playing it cool. :D
Am chuffed to bits for ya though. ;)
hehe. Good luck Pheebs. Who knows, maybe I'll meet Mr. Right in the UK? Someone willing to move to Cali to be with me? :D Come on fellas - wine country! lol
Del Lardo
01-06-2011, 22:11
Awww big hugs Mel. Romantics are required... without being too soppy! Darnit!
Typical lady, mixed messages ;) :p
hehe. Good luck Pheebs. Who knows, maybe I'll meet Mr. Right in the UK? Someone willing to move to Cali to be with me? :D Come on fellas - wine country! lol
We've already had a couple of BD gents abscond to the wrong side of the pond :evil:
We've already had a couple of BD gents abscond to the wrong side of the pond :evil:
I even went so far as to add another pond for good measure ;D
I even went so far as to add another pond for good measure ;D
One of these days I'm going to go visit YOU. Be prepared. :)
You Fail @ playing it cool. ;D;D;D Posting on Facebook is not playing it cool. :D
Am chuffed to bits for ya though. ;)
Ahahahaha! I just said I was unbelievably happy! Didn't say particularly why! And he's not on my Bookface! :p ;)
Mel - could happen! My advice though? Avoid coppers! :D
Del Lardo - there's romantic and there's stalker/suffocating/slightly insane ;) I prefer the first!
Del Lardo
01-06-2011, 23:46
I even went so far as to add another pond for good measure ;D
I've seen Hawaii-5-O so assumed that you were planning on returning to the UK where it's safe. Wondering how you haven't been stabbed, shot, blown up, had a surf board through your head yet?
Del Lardo - there's romantic and there's stalker/suffocating/slightly insane ;) I prefer the first!
Don't go to Hawaii! ;)
I've seen Hawaii-5-O so assumed that you were planning on returning to the UK where it's safe. Wondering how you haven't been stabbed, shot, blown up, had a surf board through your head yet?
Especially given how many of the scenes are filmed a couple of blocks from my office. I've never actually seen it but one of the main office rooms that features was an old unused room in the post office just a block away. Almost every time I'm out that way I see the lights and the coloured film covering the windows (to be consistent camera friendly sunlight I guess). I've seen Grace Park (*drool*) once or twice from a distance but yet to catch the rest.
Tysonator
03-06-2011, 21:24
hehe. Good luck Pheebs. Who knows, maybe I'll meet Mr. Right in the UK? Someone willing to move to Cali to be with me? :D Come on fellas - wine country! lol
well, now you mentioned wine, that's worth a visit to Cali ! lol ;)
well, now you mentioned wine, that's worth a visit to Cali ! lol ;)
Hurrah! Husband contestant number one! Auditions will be held in London in 2 and a half weeks :P :evil:
Tysonator
05-06-2011, 15:49
Auditions,....does that includ wint tasting as well ! ? ha, ha
I may have to take back a lot of what I said through this thread!
Strange times. But good times :)
I may have to take back a lot of what I said through this thread!
Strange times. But good times :)
HA! I knew it! :evil: ;D
lol! Why you say that Mondo!?
Heh. Yeh, been a bit swept off my feet! It's all a bit shocking :)
lol! Why you say that Mondo!?
Heh. Yeh, been a bit swept off my feet! It's all a bit shocking :)
I meant when you said you were really happy the other day, I knew why :)
Oh, I am guessing you guys meet on POF?
Yeh... which is kinda really ghey! Hahahaha!
But... like. Heh. Hahahaa. Worth it. :)
HA, I knew that would happen too when you started this as an experiment for a blog. It sounds like a movie script waiting to happen as soon as you told me! :)
Ahahahhaa! Wish my life was that predictable!
Very happy I'm being proven wrong!!!!
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