View Full Version : Can laaadies and felllllaaas be friends?!
As per title! Saw a funny video the other day and figured I'd ask....
...Thoooooooooooughts!?
(PS I vote yarp :) My bestest bud for years was a fella and the one time we tried to get it on it was like a F.R.I.E.N.D.S episode where we both laughed and laughed and laughed! Completely failed! He's like a Brother to me it was gross and yeh!
I've had plenty of other male friends who have no willy (in my head) and I am convinced haven't had any feelings for me! So I think, quite simply, yup!
Contrary to a fair few of what people say! Most of the people who think otherwise are talking about single ladies and single guys being friends not those with partners. I still say codswollop to them! :D
Knipples
13-12-2011, 08:21
Yes.
I also think you can have sex with someone who is a friend and still maintain that friendship, even if you stop sleeping with them.
volospian
13-12-2011, 09:06
Of course they can. I have loads of girlie friends. In fact at work the majority of my friends are female and my best friend, who I go out to the pub at lunch and to works do's and so on, is female. I'm now also good friends with her husband and we all meet up at each others houses for dinner and stuff, but she was my friend before I met her hubby.
Yes. But you can never help how other people perceive it.
When I was younger I had more male friends than female...sometimes i'd prefer it as girls can be so bitchy :p
Men are simple ;)
BB x
Justsomebloke
13-12-2011, 10:25
I have quite a few female friends & some of them pop round for T & a film/Chat, No biggy.
Yes from me. :cool:
Depends on how ugly one/t'other is. If both cute & fancy each other, always potential for it to change and for rumpy to occur. If one/both is fugly, then chances of body bit bumpage decreases proportionally.
/shallow
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Davey_Pitch
13-12-2011, 11:46
Absolutely, without question. I'd like to think many of the girlies on here are my friends, and one of my best and oldest friends is a girlie, who was also a bridesmaid at my wedding (Hannah, for those who may remember her).
Some people definitely don't understand it though. When I lived in Leeds Hannah and I worked together, and often went off for lunch together. Despite the fact I was already with someone, a lot of people seemed convinced we were sleeping together. They tended to be older people as well, so perhaps it's something of a generational thing in that they never had friends of the opposite sex, so just couldn't get their head around the fact we were always just friends.
Depends on how ugly one/t'other is. If both cute & fancy each other, always potential for it to change and for rumpy to occur. If one/both is fugly, then chances of body bit bumpage decreases proportionally.
/shallow
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;D
BB x
Entirely possible. However everyone is different.
For instance I have a few male and female friends who despite being best friends with some girls/boys still fancy the pants off them, so for them there is still a physical yearning somewhere. Although after years and years they know nothing is going to happen and just leave those feelings aside and just support the role of being a good friend.
I know of groups of people who fancied the pants of the other sex but that served as the introduction to a fantastic friendship and the initial "interest" dwindled, and what remained was a strong bond.
I think there is always chemistry needed (irrespective of sex) - this doesn't need to be sexual, but two opposite sexes can get on but it requires something - just like same sex friendships, but I think opposite sex friendships offer different levels of emotional support that compliment one another.
Friends with benefits... well that's a whole different subject worthy of a thread in itself! ;D
For me... I've always got one well with the opposite sex, if other people decide there's more to it, then too bad, can't help what they think. So a yes from me. :)
Depends on how ugly one/t'other is. If both cute & fancy each other, always potential for it to change and for rumpy to occur. If one/both is fugly, then chances of body bit bumpage decreases proportionally.
/shallow
Sent from my Galaxy S2
LOL! You've basically said what I try to say in about 100x less words. :o
Pumpkinstew
13-12-2011, 19:32
Of course. And you should never underestimate the value of a wing-woman.
I think Will's hit the nail on the head.
If the question is whether a man and a woman can just be friends without anything 'more' then of course they can. A bigger question is whether they can just be friends without either having any additional 'interest' or sexual desire/yearning for the other. I think this situation is much much rarer but it does happen.
Circumstances are sometimes everything too. I've formed a close friendship with someone this year who's literally half my age and I think that fact has actually helped. If we were of a similar age then who knows, maybe there'd be some 'interest' between us but, as it is, there just isn't and it's never an issue - we're more like brother and sister and refer to each other as such and I actually find it very rewarding to have a female friend where there's no hint or possibility of anything more 'hanging over' us if that makes sense.
Davey_Pitch
18-12-2011, 15:36
I've voted for 'Ladies can have Man friends but not other way round'.
In my experience, I've known a lot of men who are totally incapable of having female friends without wanting to jump into their pants with them.
I'm in no way saying that all men are like that.
Erm, it seems like you kinda are saying that, by saying ladies can have man friends, but not the other way around. Am I not reading it right or something?
Creature
18-12-2011, 16:16
I've always seen it that men and women can be friends, with no sexual feelings between the two. Most of my friends are girls, so if I didn't see things that way, and wanted to jump all of them, i'd be a pretty depressed person.
Friends with ex's is the one that I find the weirder one to answer, as i'm friends with one of mine, but not another, despite the latter ending on much better terms.
Blighter
18-12-2011, 16:34
There is probably always going to be some 'desire' between 2 people of opposite genders (or the same if gay).
I think you can still have really close friendships with the opposite gender. My two best friends of about 7-8 years are both female & have been on holidays, etc with no problems what so ever. They aren't the sort of people I would want to live with, have children with, etc, but are still brilliant friends.
Not sure if that makes sense but hey-ho :p
leowyatt
18-12-2011, 17:42
Erm, it seems like you kinda are saying that, by saying ladies can have man friends, but not the other way around. Am I not reading it right or something?
It is a bit of a contradicting post
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For the record I think they (men & women) can be close friends. Just as well really or else bisexuals would have an absolute nightmare ;)
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