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Beansprout
05-11-2007, 05:11
....I never realised you could be so into someone at one moment, then so out of them the next.
That's what religious talks do to people with differing views I guess :)
(Careful - don't want a religious flame war here!)
That happens when I find out that someone I fancy smokes. Instant turn off. I can't help it.
Sometimes views or beliefs are too strong to be ignored.
I was about to say that I don't think religion would put me off someone because I'm really not religious in the slightest. However, if I found someone who was really into their religion and started trying to force their views on me, that'd be the end of it.
Similarly, if Leon tried to purchase a chavved up Clio.... I'd have to seriously re-think our relationship :p
semi-pro waster
05-11-2007, 08:52
I don't think religion would particularly bother me if I fancied someone until and unless they tried to force me to believe in the same. I'll respect peoples right to believe in anything provided they respect my own and others right to believe in nothing or the complete opposite i.e. they will not either disrespect or try to hurt them for an opposite belief, whatever it may be. I don't mind a debate on religion but someones right to preach to me stops when I say "sorry, not interested thanks" and likewise I'd try never to preach my views at someone after they said the equivalent.
Conversely views on race are much more likely to be a deal breaker to me. Smoking is also usually a turn off although I could probably look past it, however having had two grandfathers and an uncle die of smoking related diseases then it wouldn't be something I was particularly happy about.
Similarly, if Leon tried to purchase a chavved up Clio.... I'd have to seriously re-think our relationship :p
I don't think anyone would blame you either.. :D Some things are just not acceptable.
Can I just say, me too. Smoking is also an instant turn off for me I'm afraid (no offence to our resident smokers here). Religion isn't provided it's not rammed down my throat (heck I've even been to church once or twice myself recently).
What sparked that off Beano?
What sparked that off Beano?
That's what I was wondering! You ok Beany?
Pumpkinstew
05-11-2007, 14:28
....I never realised you could be so into someone at one moment, then so out of them the next.
I think we've all had one of those chicken fillet moments.:confused:
Chin up. If they're not the one they're not the one.
Kell_ee001
05-11-2007, 15:14
Religion and smoking (obviously) aren't issues for me, but an instant turn off is hearing / seeing someone being intentionally cruel :(
/me pings Kelleeeee's bra strap
Kell_ee001
05-11-2007, 16:36
:shocked:
I said cruel, not just annoying :p Annoying I can handle... I can be a little annoying at times apparently :o
Pumpkinstew
05-11-2007, 18:03
/Dangles juicy carrot just out of reach of the cute fluffy bunny
/Mwa-Hah-ha:evil:
Stan_Lite
05-11-2007, 18:09
... I can be a little annoying at times apparently :o
I'm saying nothing *whistles* :p
... I can be a little annoying at times apparently :o
Eh?
Nah, you must be mistaking yourself for someone else.
That happens when I find out that someone I fancy smokes. Instant turn off. I can't help it.
Ditto. Totally non negotiable and I think even if that person quit smoking there and then I still wouldn't change my mind.
semi-pro waster
05-11-2007, 19:38
/me pokes a kitten
Have you checked what she thinks about this? Well at least you won't have far to go to turn yourself in if a complaint is made. ;)
Davey_Pitch
05-11-2007, 21:05
I can be a little annoying at times apparently :o
Trains and sweeties come to mind I think ;D
As for me, I can be very intolerant and impatient :o Only if I have cause though... Smoking being the obvious one... Different views don't bother me if they are fair and not oppressive.
Trains and sweeties come to mind I think ;D
:D
Stan_Lite
05-11-2007, 21:50
Trains and sweeties come to mind I think ;D
(And coffee).
Don't remind me :'(
LeperousDust
06-11-2007, 02:44
That happens when I find out that someone I fancy smokes. Instant turn off. I can't help it.
Sometimes views or beliefs are too strong to be ignored.
I was about to say that I don't think religion would put me off someone because I'm really not religious in the slightest. However, if I found someone who was really into their religion and started trying to force their views on me, that'd be the end of it.
Similarly, if Leon tried to purchase a chavved up Clio.... I'd have to seriously re-think our relationship :p
I basically agree again Kate, although maybe not 100% on the smoking, but its a big downer when i'm with a girl i'm getting on really well with, and then she decides shes needs to go out for a smoke break or something. I think you can physically see my face drop. Depending on how drunk i am usually ( :D) or how good we get on, its slightly negotiable, i shouldn't but i also feel like a pr**k for thinking like that too...
Beansprout
06-11-2007, 21:15
Weird, didn't get any thread reply e-mails :o Popped on after I got a message from Mark :)
/reads thread!
Beansprout
06-11-2007, 21:41
What sparked that off Beano?
Girlfriend was made to attend some strange Church thing at the weekend. Learning about Forgiveness or something. She didn't really want to go, but her parents are quite religious and they'd booked her onto it (at cost), so she went along.
All good and fine - she's religious too - but I made the mistake of asking her what it was about when she got back :D
I'm /not/ religious in the slightest, so several of the things she said they talked about annoyed me and we had a night-long debate about it all and when I posted I was thinking "oh God [pardon the pun] I can't live with this stuff". You know how these Latin Americans praise God for everything:p
Fortunately I discovered my gf isn't as religious as her parents which is good. She's now thinking for herself I suppose, so I enjoy challenging her...she tried challenging me too, so it was good fun in the end. When she came out with the religious cliches (eg only God is perfect), I ended up laughing to which she just sighed :p
In the end we agreed to disagree - actually had a really good debate :)
I was also reminded of a time when my mum got into a religious debate with one of her friends (also religious, another faith though) who made a slightly off comment, and they didn't get on well again for a while after that :confused:
It's just strange - religion is one of those things where people have beliefs they make so personal and will believe at any cost. Their right I suppose, just like as people say here, smoking....people can choose to do it but it ain't for me, so as long as they don't do it around me, that's ok.
Sounds a little bit like a debate a good friend and I had a few years ago, started off by him saying he didn't want me to go to hell. Turned into a good debate though and we agreed to disagree :)
I know exactly what you mean though Beany, glad it's sorted out now.
Beansprout
06-11-2007, 21:46
Sounds a little bit like a debate a good friend and I had a few years ago, started off by him saying he didn't want me to go to hell. Turned into a good debate though and we agreed to disagree :)
I know exactly what you mean though Beany, glad it's sorted out now.
My first good thread on BD I think:D
Now that it's gone a different direction to what I thought when I posted it, maybe it should get moved to News, Current Affairs & Debate *shrug*
At least the debate ended on good terms - that's how all debates should be. Heck, I'm extremely stubborn but I also love to argue/debate and more often than not play devil's advocate or purposely throw the cats among the pigeons.
Anyway it sounds to me like she's independent enough to make up her own mind, but isn't going to let that interrupt or get in between your relationship. I know it might be hard to do it, but you have to try and support her if that's something she's really into and believes strongly in. It's not easy... but at the same time she's got to understand your feelings on it. As long as people are evangelistic about things I can deal with it no probs - it's when it starts becoming personal and "down their nose at me" that it starts to wind me up!
You spooked me there - I thought some bad **** was happening - glad it's nothing bad! :)
You spooked me there - I thought some bad **** was happening - glad it's nothing bad! :)
Me too, glad it's all sorted, or at least going in the right direction. The MSN message wasn't about this but the result is certainly welcome. :)
Beansprout
06-11-2007, 23:06
At least the debate ended on good terms - that's how all debates should be. Heck, I'm extremely stubborn but I also love to argue/debate and more often than not play devil's advocate or purposely throw the cats among the pigeons.
Anyway it sounds to me like she's independent enough to make up her own mind, but isn't going to let that interrupt or get in between your relationship. I know it might be hard to do it, but you have to try and support her if that's something she's really into and believes strongly in. It's not easy... but at the same time she's got to understand your feelings on it. As long as people are evangelistic about things I can deal with it no probs - it's when it starts becoming personal and "down their nose at me" that it starts to wind me up!
You spooked me there - I thought some bad **** was happening - glad it's nothing bad! :)
Aye, I'm stubborn too - it was great to see her being stubborn as well, for once - she's such a mouse normally!
You spooked me there - I thought some bad **** was happening - glad it's nothing bad! :)
Me too at the time, I wasn't sure yesterday.
The MSN message wasn't about this but the result is certainly welcome.
I keep missing you on MSN, thanks for the other heads up the other day :)
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