View Full Version : So, you thought you had principles eh?
A Place of Light
04-10-2008, 12:51
On a similar tangent to Pheebs thread, but a little more specific, I have a question for you all.
If it was 100% sure to remain secret, would you cheat on your partner for money.....á la Indecent proposal, and if so how much would the offer need to be?
Now, it's easy to jump onto your moral high horse and say "of course I wouldn't", but try to imagine this as a real scenario. Sex with a stranger, one time only and it's guaranteed to remain confidential.....for a potentially life-changing sum of money.
I'd be surprised if, secretly, the only real answer the majority of you will be asking yourselves is "how much would it take?".
Piggymon
04-10-2008, 12:55
I really couldn't do it.
If he knew however and allowed it that would be different and I would need 1 MILLLIOOOOOON pounds.
A Place of Light
04-10-2008, 13:00
I really couldn't do it.
If he knew however and allowed it that would be different and I would need 1 MILLLIOOOOOON pounds.
I think if you take your figure (ooo err matron) and use it as a benchmark, although I had no upper limit in mind when this occured to me, then more people would actually go through with it than would admit so as a hypothetical situation. Even some of the most commited parters could see the trade-off between degrading yourself (in their own eyes) for an hour or two to "earn" a completely life-changing sum of money.
Piggymon
04-10-2008, 13:07
It wouldn't about degrading myself, it would be about betraying my partner.
Couldn't do it :)
A Place of Light
04-10-2008, 13:10
It wouldn't about degrading myself, it would be about betraying my partner.
Couldn't do it :)
Then (and I honestly do believe you), you truly are a rare breed, as I think that deep down the majority of people would go for the deal.
leowyatt
04-10-2008, 13:13
I'm sorry but personally I couldn't do it, because I won't cheat on the person I am with. If you want to make it a real scenario then how would you explain that "life-changing" sum of money to your partner??
Blackstar
04-10-2008, 13:15
then how would you explain that "life-changing" sum of money to your partner??
Exactly.
leowyatt
04-10-2008, 13:16
Exactly.
Oh I won the lottery :rolleyes:
I think I'd have to discuss it with Phil. I definitely couldn't go behind his back, and he'd find out when I suddenly was able to pay off the mortgage :) Then again if Phil got the offer, I'd rather not know! Imagine what you'd be going through knowing what your partner was doing at a certain point. I'd struggle to deal with that.
As for the sum, it would have to be enough for us to live in complete comfort for the rest of our lives. Big house, no jobs and able to go racing etc.
A Place of Light
04-10-2008, 13:28
If you want to make it a real scenario then how would you explain that "life-changing" sum of money to your partner??
That's an excellent point that I hadn't considered.
A Place of Light
04-10-2008, 13:29
As for the sum, it would have to be enough for us to live in complete comfort for the rest of our lives. Big house, no jobs and able to go racing etc.
That would be completely your call to make.
£1M.....£5M? something in that ballpark?
If you want to make it a real scenario then how would you explain that "life-changing" sum of money to your partner??
I was wondering that too :)
I'd say closer to 5m. I like the good life :D
On a similar tangent to Pheebs thread, but a little more specific, I have a question for you all.
If it was 100% sure to remain secret, would you cheat on your partner for money.....á la Indecent proposal, and if so how much would the offer need to be?
Now, it's easy to jump onto your moral high horse and say "of course I wouldn't", but try to imagine this as a real scenario. Sex with a stranger, one time only and it's guaranteed to remain confidential.....for a potentially life-changing sum of money.
I'd be surprised if, secretly, the only real answer the majority of you will be asking yourselves is "how much would it take?".
There has been a similar thread to this before somewhere I think :D
It would never be 100% sure to remain a secret, I mean, for all you know, You could end up talking in your sleep even and saying something, there are millions of things that could happen to make it not a secret at any moment.
But, I dont think I would do it, as I would hope that if I was with someone, I was so happy, and so in love with them, that I would not be able to even think of doing anything with anyone else, no matter what for.
Imagine the conversation though:
Man: "I slept with somebody else"
Woman: "You ****! I'm leaving you! ... .... Who's is that Lambo outside?"
Man: "Mine. I'm now a multi-millionaire"
Woman: "Let's not rush these things, I'm willing to talk it through"
LeperousDust
04-10-2008, 14:00
Imagine the conversation though:
Man: "I slept with somebody else"
Woman: "You ****! I'm leaving you! ... .... Who's is that Lambo outside?"
Man: "Mine. I'm now a multi-millionaire"
Woman: "Let's not rush these things, I'm willing to talk it through"
;D;D;D
Most people know my financial situation.
If I was 100% certain the bloke did not have any std's or anything like that, and contraception was to be used, I dont see why not.
The next thing I'd obviously think of is what kind of amount of money would I want in return? It'd have to be life changing enough to make a difference to not just my life and the lives of my children, but I'd want to be able to help out my parents and put away some money for my neices and nephews too.
As long as all of the conditions met my approval, I'd be happy to lay back and think of England on just that one occasion.
Although, I think I'd have to tell my other half about it, it'd not remain secret (I wouldnt feel comfortable with that). If he had a problem with it, I'd have to have a serious think about going through with it or not.
Me: "Erm, Mrs. Feek, I've been offered 10 mil to shag this woman. She's quite pretty, no strings attached, guaranteed clean and nobody will ever know."
Mrs. Feek: "If I join in, will we get 20 mil?"
Me: "Erm, Mrs. Feek, I've been offered 10 mil to shag this woman. She's quite pretty, no strings attached, guaranteed clean and nobody will ever know."
Mrs. Feek: "If I join in, will we get 20 mil?"
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!;D;D;D;D;D
I wouldn't be able to keep it from my Faysh I'd have to talk it through.
He would agree though and it would have to be 5mil atleast.
Its a life changing amount and it would be a couple of hours (10mins if he is like Faysh :p) of sex.
The thing is (And no offence is intended) a lot of people on BD are couples and they all see each other's posts, and we're a close knit community of friends. If people didn't have their other halves on here or if it was a confidential 1-1 conversation I just wonder... However, at the same time I also believe the sentiments put forward by those that have answered, maybe I'm just not a principled person.
Anyway as for me, if I wasn't married or engaged, and it was guaranteed that no one found out, I'd probably do it for a suitable sum - it would have to be fairly substantial at least £1mil but probably more. However I'd never trust that the truth wouldn't come out, and I'd be too paranoid about that for the rest of my life/relationship, and hence couldn't live with it. So whilst on paper I probably would, in real life I doubt I'd be able to go through with it.
If I could see the future and knew that it would never be release publicly, I would be tempted.
Funnily enough I was reading an article in the paper the other day that Britons are generally more likely to cheat than most of the other European nations which was both sad and interesting to find out.
The BD couples I know are very honest with each other though.
I'd expect Phil would say he'd do it. So it wouldn't be a shock to me if he came in and posted that he'd do it.
That's of course true and I never doubted that for a moment. But loaded questions in front of people you care about are usually given answers to appease the situation in general.
The original post does say "and it's guaranteed to remain confidential". Guaranteed. It will never be found out by anyone.
I know it says that... but it's whether or not I could believe it.
As I said if I, myself could go to the future and be sure of it (i.e. I don't trust the person that is paying me to shag 'em) then as I said I would be tempted.
The original post does say "and it's guaranteed to remain confidential". Guaranteed. It will never be found out by anyone.
How are they going to stop me having a massive conscience (sp) moment and blabbing though! Ok it's one thing that no one is going to mention it, but another thing that you yourself know and have to live with it.
Piggymon
04-10-2008, 18:04
How are they going to stop me having a massive conscience (sp) moment and blabbing though! Ok it's one thing that no one is going to mention it, but another thing that you yourself know and have to live with it.
Exactly my feelings :)
How are they going to stop me having a massive conscience
By drowning it out with houses and cars and yachts! :D
semi-pro waster
04-10-2008, 19:00
Given that I'm presently single then sure, bring on the money, I don't think it counts as cheating on yourself.
If I had a partner then I'd like to think that I wouldn't do it without discussing it with them first and even then I possibly wouldn't but realistically it isn't something that could be said with any degree of certainty unless I was in that position. Effectively the question is "would you prostitute yourself", the rest of it is merely haggling over the amount of money required.
No definitely not. Strange thing is I wouldn't sleep with anyone for money (even a life changing amount) if it was just down to me. However, if my partner knew about it and really wanted me to do it, I would consider it. It would have to be a massive amount of money (somewhere 5 million+). It would depend on who the person was too.
So... as a singleton, never. In a relationship, only if my partner wanted me to but dependant on how much and who it was, I would only be doing it for my partner.
I'd do it, but it would have to be an awful lot of money, enough that I could spend the interest willy-nilly without care in the world.
Money cannot buy you love though, and I think if I found the "one" then I'd probably have a different outlook / feel a bit worse.
I have no shame in letting it be known that for the amount of money described above, there is almost nothing that I wouldn't do in the right circumstances.
Kell_ee001
04-10-2008, 20:15
If I was dating someone I would discuss it with them and for the sake of a 1 time thing that would allow me to change my life (and lives of people I love), I'd do it. And I would do it for as much as they'd give me! :D Let them give me a figure and we'll go from there ;D
*checks bank account*
I can do you £40 and a packet of pringles? ;D
I tell you what. For you I'll do it for nothing! But I promise not to enjoy it :p
Pumpkinstew
05-10-2008, 07:55
I'd get my partners consent first. I don't know if she's pragmatic enough to agree though.
As for the cost - depends on the proposition I suppose. How do gigolo prices go? Do you charge by the hour? By the 'service'? By the inch? Is VAT at standard rate?
I hope it's by the inch.
I'm 6foot tall. ;D
One caveat - I'm not wearing a B@!h jersey for all the tea in China.
Wouldn't do it with or without partners consent. Money just doesn't mean that much to me. I never get anything on credit (besides the mortgage) as working for it means I appreciate what I have more.
Doubt anyone believes me but don't care to be honest! I yam what I yam!
Seeing as I have the emotional capacity of a wet haddock at the moment I'd do it with a smile and enjoy it for half the price:D Sign here please....
A Place of Light
05-10-2008, 12:57
Seeing as I have the emotional capacity of a wet haddock at the moment I'd do it with a smile and enjoy it for half the price:D Sign here please....
Do you take DHSS milk tokens? :p
A Place of Light
05-10-2008, 12:59
But loaded questions.....
Poor choice of word IMHO, as the question wasn't loaded it was merely a hypothetical question which nobody had to answer anyway.
A Place of Light
05-10-2008, 13:10
You can have my pringles to bargain with if you like as Will doesn't want 'em ;D
Pringles.....proof itself that Satan is very real and walking among us. :D
A Place of Light
05-10-2008, 13:16
I never figured him to have that little moustache though.
He's gone all metrosexual.
Poor choice of word IMHO, as the question wasn't loaded it was merely a hypothetical question which nobody had to answer anyway.
Unless he thinks you're a multibazilionaire Robert Redford lookalike who isn't getting any. Call me :D
A Place of Light
05-10-2008, 13:23
Unless he thinks you're a multibazilionaire Robert Redford lookalike who isn't getting any. Call me :D
As soon as that shyster Warren buffet pays me back the money he owes me, you can count on it.
I'd do it for my family its just sex and I love sex :) so I don't see the problem.
Its the secret of it I wouldn't be able to do. I would have to talk it through with Faysh.
We had this convo years ago and I know he wouldn't have a problem as we could afford the pherapy after lol
It would have to be a life changing amount with lots to spend too lol
I would love to be able to give my kids the best education money could buy. :)
NokkonWud
05-10-2008, 14:26
I probably would, but if I was truly in love it would have to be of an amount capable of changing mine and my partners life for the better.
I was offered an indecent proposal by Mister Henri Llyod a few years back. I thought he was taking the mickey at first (although I was office dressed, I was standing their with a colleague police officer in full uniform... but saying that when he heard what Mr Llyod said he took a few strides away and took interest in something else. The filth buckets I used to work with!!) Upon declining, having a joke dance around with him on his sunseeker (whilst he was singing When Irish Eyes are Smiling) and then moving away I was told he wasn't joking by my colleague and he's renouned for doing it.
Had me in shock for a bit as he'd only asked me out for dinner (but judging by his nudging and winking he would have expected more if I had gone along with it I am sure :)). Plus I canny remember the figures he was offering but they were ludicrous. Wouldn't make any sense to have a lady out in an evening just for dinner!
Still. I automatically laughed and said no ta, so I presume I would only do the same again.
I would never ever do anything super rude without my mans approval. If it was a go-out-for-dinner thing only I would consider it and make sure it was understood it was as friends and nothing more.
:)
I'd do anything for some cheese Doritos at the mo ;) Catch me at the wrong (or right!) time and my morals go out the window to be fair.
I'd do anything for some cheese Doritos at the mo ;)
With garlic dip :D
Blighter
05-10-2008, 22:33
Next question: Would you shag me for a million quid? I know one persons answer already! ;)
Next question: Would you shag me for a million quid? I know one persons answer already! ;)
i'd bum you for a £100 tbh
On a similar tangent to Pheebs thread, but a little more specific, I have a question for you all.
If it was 100% sure to remain secret, would you cheat on your partner for money.....á la Indecent proposal, and if so how much would the offer need to be?
Now, it's easy to jump onto your moral high horse and say "of course I wouldn't", but try to imagine this as a real scenario. Sex with a stranger, one time only and it's guaranteed to remain confidential.....for a potentially life-changing sum of money.
I'd be surprised if, secretly, the only real answer the majority of you will be asking yourselves is "how much would it take?".
I'd do it for a million. I've cheated before, not proud of it, but I think because I know my track record is already up the proverbial creek without a paddle, I'd be more prepared to do this. I know the feelings of guilt and betrayal already, so it wouldn't be a rude shock.
Granted I am not married or in a long-term r'ship like many on here, I've been with someone a few months so it would be easy to keep the cash stashed away and just fob her off with rubbish excuses for where it's coming from ;)
Next question: Would you shag me for a million quid? I know one persons answer already! ;)
Have you got a million quid?
I'm not even going to think about answering unless you do infact have the money.
Piggymon
06-10-2008, 20:26
Have you got a million quid?
I'm not even going to think about answering unless you do infact have the money.
LOL ! ;D
G-MAN2004
06-10-2008, 21:19
Have you got a million quid?
I'm not even going to think about answering unless you do infact have the money.
For £1 million. Gosh, cheap are we? It's blighter we're talking about!
:p;)
it wouldn't happen for several good reasons. If I was with someone, I couldn't live with the guilt. If I wasn't with someone, I still couldn't. I'd be no better than a high class prostitute. Sorry if that offends some, but thats what it is.
A Place of Light
06-10-2008, 23:46
I'd do anything for some cheese Doritos at the mo ;) Catch me at the wrong (or right!) time and my morals go out the window to be fair.
Hey, everyone has their price.....and some settle for far less than Doritos.
;)
A Place of Light
06-10-2008, 23:48
Next question: Would you shag me for a million quid? I know what the answer of approximately 60 million people in the UK would be already ;)
Fixed for greater accuracy.
:p
Hey, everyone has their price.....and some settle for far less than Doritos.
;)
Not everyone has a price... speak for yourself :p
For £1 million. Gosh, cheap are we? It's blighter we're talking about!
:p;)
1 million pounds is considered cheap nowadays is it? Guess I'm cheap then :p
Lets look at it this way......
A million pounds would buy me a decent house (probably 250kish at the most) and allow me to furnish it. It would also allow me to send both of my kids to the school I'd really like them to go to.
It would pay all of my debts, and all of my mum and dad's debts.
And I'd probably have enough left over to live comfortably for a while and start a few bank accounts for the young uns of the family.
A Place of Light
07-10-2008, 18:43
Not everyone has a price... speak for yourself :p
EVERYONE can be bought.....eventually.
You can add culture, breeding, civility and any of a dozen other constructs into the mix, but we're still walking chemistry sets and we act accordingly.
Anyone that thinks otherwise has either never found themselves in such a situation, or the bid wasn't high enough for them to abandon their principles.
;)
EVERYONE can be bought.....eventually.
You can add culture, breeding, civility and any of a dozen other constructs into the mix, but we're still walking chemistry sets and we act accordingly.
Anyone that thinks otherwise has either never found themselves in such a situation, or the bid wasn't high enough for them to abandon their principles.
;)
Considering there will never be anyone to seriously offer me megabucks and so the actual situation will never arise, I have as much conviction in my belief that I'd stand firm and say no as you do that I'd say yes, and you cannot prove otherwise.
Now, fancy a shag?
Now, fancy a shag?
box of choccies and some fruit cake? :)
box of choccies and some fruit cake? :)
It's a deal!
EVERYONE can be bought.....eventually.
You can add culture, breeding, civility and any of a dozen other constructs into the mix, but we're still walking chemistry sets and we act accordingly.
Anyone that thinks otherwise has either never found themselves in such a situation, or the bid wasn't high enough for them to abandon their principles.
;)
Well.. if incredibly stupid amounts was offered (ie, billions) you'd have to think of all the people you could help with it (and not just family/friends). The interest alone would be able to give decent sums to charities.
So... depending on what principles you had, if your aim in life is to help others and you knew this money would be able to support and aid thousands of people in getting a better quality of life then really... it probably is worth it.
I don't think the situation will ever come up ever again where I get offered lots of wonga (although if I recall rightly it wasn't a million in offering! I have it written down somewhere... I'll have to dig it out) but just incase I'll ask Picky tonight and see what he says :) If he's fine I would consider a hefty sum. If it's a straight no then I wouldn't dare because I wouldn't want to lose someone I care for so much! Simple really! So I don't think everyone can be bought... it depends on what you treasure most in life really :)
A Place of Light
08-10-2008, 21:01
Considering there will never be anyone to seriously offer me megabucks and so the actual situation will never arise, I have as much conviction in my belief that I'd stand firm and say no as you do that I'd say yes, and you cannot prove otherwise.
Now, fancy a shag?
Such poetry.
/swoons.
A Place of Light
08-10-2008, 21:04
So I don't think everyone can be bought...
Warren Buffet calls you up.
He says if you sleep with him just for one night, he will donate ten billion US to a charity of your choice.
You'd say no?
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