Can you change yourself?

[Desmo]

I've recently let somebody down, fairly badly. I said I'd get something sorted and I've not done it. Every time I say I'll do it I have every intention to get it done...but then something crops up. I'm either busy at work, busy at home or just not in the mood to get it done.

But I want to change. It's not often I'll do this, but when I do it drags and drags.

Do you think it's possible to change yourself? I want to give myself some more get up and go. There are so many little things I want to do and get done and yet I never get around to doing them. Can I give myself the drive? Is there something I can do...even a little thing...to get me going?

[Goose]

Yeap, it is possible. I'm not going to go into details but I'd say only about 5% of me hasn't changed in the last 4 years.

In my experience though, there needs to be a big problem before you can change things. Little 'flaws' are too easy to live with.

[Mat]

Yes. I have changed various parts of my persona over the years without too much trouble.

[Admiral Huddy]

Yes you can but only when you realise that there is a good reason to.

I think I've changed over the last 4 years. In fact, the wife says I have but I needed to otherwise I faced loosing my family. The fact one day she said she was leaving (and other things) was a real kick in the teeth and it was a real eye opener. Despite years of her telling me what I was doing wrong, it was only when drastic action was taken that I actually listened.

On the other other hand, I'm terrible at keeping in contact with people and I make no excuses. I've tried changing but it doesn't work for me. So now I except this is the way I am and I'm not going to change. I guess that's why I like the meets so much. Having friends I meet up with occassionally, catching up without the pressure of having to stay in touch all the time suits me better.

In a nutshell, if you and those that are important to you are happy with the way you are and more importantly Accept the way you are, then don't change. If you need to change, then this will happen because you'll either want to or are forced to and you may not even know.

[Dee]

Absolutley! Dont ask me how, but it can be done

I have changed myself for other people in the past, then those people let me down. From now on, I am my own person, and I love the person Ive become. I made a lifechanging decision last year, and its worked out for the best. Ive also discovered a love for photography much like Kitten, and have done something about it by going to college, (sorry Kitten, thats not a dig at you ) as I really think this is the career path I would like to take.

You only get one shot at life Jim, be the person you want to be

[Admiral Huddy]

Originally Posted by Betty

be the person you want to be

Absolutley!

[Tak]

Originally Posted by Betty

You only get one shot at life Jim, be the person you want to be

*waits for Piggy to spot this*

[Pumpkinstew]

Originally Posted by Desmo

I've recently let somebody down, fairly badly. I said I'd get something sorted and I've not done it. Every time I say I'll do it I have every intention to get it done...but then something crops up. I'm either busy at work, busy at home or just not in the mood to get it done.

I think this is just a part of modern life. I constantly feel like there aren't enough hours in the day to work, rest, play, socialise.

Letting people down always leaves you feeling lousy but sometimes it's unavoidable. It's too easy to keep saying yes and stretch yourself too thin.

[Pheebs]

Yup! Takes some doing but sure you can!

Set edible targets! Then munch your way through it!

I used to be unconfident, quiet (very quiet - as in wouldn't speak to anyone) and very nervous!

And now look at me. I'm stupidly talkative, not fussed what people think when the words fall out my mouth and have a fair bit of confidence (considering I'm setting up my own business!)

You've got to believe in yourself - that's all

It takes time but you can do it! *hugs*

And don't worry - we all cock up at some point - we're humans after all (until we turn into transformers.... ROoOOboOots Inn DIsGuuuiIIse *meerh merrh meerh merhh* *1337 robot moves*) Do what you can to put it right and move on! Make it your starting point to make some changes!

I need a wee now - I think I got over excited with the whole robot moves thing.

xx wubbles xx

[Admiral Huddy]

Originally Posted by Pheebs

I need a wee now - I think I got over excited with the whole robot moves thing.

xx wubbles xx

Can I watch - I'm bored