Help! Man trouble...

Knipples · 18-05-2008, 18:40

Ok so I have been happily single for over a year now. Wouldnt have minded if someone had come along but no one did so that was fine.
Went to a school reunion 3 weeks ago and chatted to one of the blokes who was in my year, had a nice chat, thought he was still pretty hot, and thought that would be that.

He joined facebook (no this isnt a facebook rant) and I added him. Got chatting and it developed into a bit of flirting at which point he asked if id like to meet up for a drink.

We went out for a few drinks and ended up having a meal together - more flirting - he dropped me home, peck on the cheek and that was that.

We spoke via facebook in the week and I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend. He lives about 20 miles away and I was finishing work early on Friday so I went down to where he lives, and we went out for a wander on our own, and then out for dinner with some of his mates. Had a snog in between going out on our own and then with his mates, and then he was quite touchy feely and attentive the rest of the evening til I went home about half 11 that night.

I spoke to him briefly yesterday morning but then he was going out with his mates (hes in the army and is home on a months leave - half way through it now) Ive heard nothing since. I sent him a message on Facebook this morning to say hello and that I enjoyed myself and was Fridays bit of fun just that, or had he thought about taking it any further with me.

No reply yet. Im really out of practice as to how these things go and what to do in the early days (if indeed it is early days)

Am I just being a silly girl and obsessing/freaking out over nothing? I need some advice because I dont want to go all weird on him and be over the top, but I really have forgotten how these things work.

Sorry for the long post!

Dee · 18-05-2008, 18:45

Maybe he didnt want to get too attached if he is on a months leave? I honestly have no idea how mens brains work, lets see what the guys say

Piggymon · 18-05-2008, 18:46

Woah, chill out a little bit

You messaged him this morning and he's not yet replied ? Maybe he's just busy and wants to send you a proper reply rather than just a rushed half reply ?

Don't worry about it, if he's worth pursuing he'll get back to you, if he's one of these types to play games he's not worth wasting your time over

Knipples · 18-05-2008, 18:46

Hes done his 2 tours of Afghan and is now back based here for the next few months. I agree that might be part of it, just would rather know.
I can do long distance that bit doesnt bother me in the least.

leowyatt · 18-05-2008, 18:47

I think the best thing for you to do now is to wait till he gets back in touch with you. You've made contact now it's up to him to respond

Knipples · 18-05-2008, 18:48

Quote:

Originally Posted by Piggymon

Woah, chill out a little bit

You messaged him this morning and he's not yet replied ? Maybe he's just busy and wants to send you a proper reply rather than just a rushed half reply ?

Don't worry about it, if he's worth pursuing he'll get back to you, if he's one of these types to play games he's not worth wasting your time over

Thankyou! Im sure I need someone to tell me to stop flapping because im so out of practice as to how these things work. In my last relationship, he did all the running and I didnt even have to try, so its been over 2 years since ive been in this position thats all.

Piggymon · 18-05-2008, 18:50

*ties knip's wings together to stop her from flapping*

Don't worry about it lovely, I'm sure he'll be back to you with a lovely reply soon

Knipples · 18-05-2008, 18:52

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kitten

be wary of scaring him off too. If he's not wanting to get serious or upset you, then if you keep messaging him asking about the state of play then it might spook him and he'll bugger off. Good luck - I hope he gets in touch!

Am not going to contact him again today and I havent sent him any txts or anything since my "thankyou for a lovely evening" one on Friday night.

Stan_Lite · 18-05-2008, 20:52

Sometimes we take a while to reply to stuff. If he's been away for a while, he probably has a lot of catching up to do with friends and family, so he could be too busy to look on FB.

I think you're right to play it cool - give him a chance and try not to appear too keen (even if he is hot).

Been out of the game for a while myself (12 years now

) so I can't really comment on 'modern' courtship patterns but I think both parties should progress at a pace which is mutually convenient. It's not the sort of thing you would probably discuss freely at such an early stage but you need to look for signals from him as to what he's comfortable with and decide if that is compatible with what you want.

Good luck

Pebs · 18-05-2008, 21:01

Cooooool as a cucumber is the name of the game

18-05-2008, 18:40	#1
Knipples nipples lol (o)(o) Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Brissle!!! Posts: 4,947	Help! Man trouble... Ok so I have been happily single for over a year now. Wouldnt have minded if someone had come along but no one did so that was fine. Went to a school reunion 3 weeks ago and chatted to one of the blokes who was in my year, had a nice chat, thought he was still pretty hot, and thought that would be that. He joined facebook (no this isnt a facebook rant) and I added him. Got chatting and it developed into a bit of flirting at which point he asked if id like to meet up for a drink. We went out for a few drinks and ended up having a meal together - more flirting - he dropped me home, peck on the cheek and that was that. We spoke via facebook in the week and I asked if he wanted to do something this weekend. He lives about 20 miles away and I was finishing work early on Friday so I went down to where he lives, and we went out for a wander on our own, and then out for dinner with some of his mates. Had a snog in between going out on our own and then with his mates, and then he was quite touchy feely and attentive the rest of the evening til I went home about half 11 that night. I spoke to him briefly yesterday morning but then he was going out with his mates (hes in the army and is home on a months leave - half way through it now) Ive heard nothing since. I sent him a message on Facebook this morning to say hello and that I enjoyed myself and was Fridays bit of fun just that, or had he thought about taking it any further with me. No reply yet. Im really out of practice as to how these things go and what to do in the early days (if indeed it is early days) Am I just being a silly girl and obsessing/freaking out over nothing? I need some advice because I dont want to go all weird on him and be over the top, but I really have forgotten how these things work. Sorry for the long post!

18-05-2008, 18:46	#3
Piggymon Lara Croft Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: PigmoPad - Braintree Essex Posts: 8,604	Woah, chill out a little bit You messaged him this morning and he's not yet replied ? Maybe he's just busy and wants to send you a proper reply rather than just a rushed half reply ? Don't worry about it, if he's worth pursuing he'll get back to you, if he's one of these types to play games he's not worth wasting your time over __________________ BF% 28/08/08 - 21%

18-05-2008, 18:47	#5
leowyatt Chef extraordinaire Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Infinite Loop Posts: 11,143	I think the best thing for you to do now is to wait till he gets back in touch with you. You've made contact now it's up to him to respond __________________ "Dr Sheldon Cooper FTW!"

18-05-2008, 18:50	#7
Piggymon Lara Croft Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: PigmoPad - Braintree Essex Posts: 8,604	ties knip's wings together to stop her from flapping Don't worry about it lovely, I'm sure he'll be back to you with a lovely reply soon __________________ BF% 28/08/08 - 21%

18-05-2008, 20:52	#9
Stan_Lite Stan, Stan the FLASHER MAN! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: In bed with your sister Posts: 5,483	Sometimes we take a while to reply to stuff. If he's been away for a while, he probably has a lot of catching up to do with friends and family, so he could be too busy to look on FB. I think you're right to play it cool - give him a chance and try not to appear too keen (even if he is hot). Been out of the game for a while myself (12 years now ) so I can't really comment on 'modern' courtship patterns but I think both parties should progress at a pace which is mutually convenient. It's not the sort of thing you would probably discuss freely at such an early stage but you need to look for signals from him as to what he's comfortable with and decide if that is compatible with what you want. Good luck __________________ Just because I have a short attention span doesn't mean I...

18-05-2008, 18:45	#2
Dee Combat Spanker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,292	Maybe he didnt want to get too attached if he is on a months leave? I honestly have no idea how mens brains work, lets see what the guys say

18-05-2008, 21:01	#10
Pebs Easymouth Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 6,716	Cooooool as a cucumber is the name of the game __________________ ...faster you naughty little monkey! Running through hell, heaven can wait!