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Desmo · 23-05-2008, 10:29

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Originally Posted by LeperousDust

It sounds like you've give him his last chance, so either he'll think **** this because he doesn't think hes done anything wrong. Or he'll try and make it up.

Im inclined to think he'll **** it because you two haven't been "together" long enough.

That was my initial thought too.

Just be yourself, it's all you can be. If it works, it works. If not, move on. Never try and be anything other than yourself though.

Lana · 23-05-2008, 12:26

I mentally cheered when I read that. He was/is treating you like a convenience, and thats not cool. The fact that he did contact you suggests he is interested, but he blew you off twice which to me says he doesn't really value your time all that much.
If he doesn't contact you again, it's because he isn't willing to work for it. If he does, give him a shot.
The whole game playing thing is foolish, imo, so if you are being honest and telling him what you feel then i can't see how thats a mistake.

divine · 23-05-2008, 12:32

I think if I received that message (from you) i'd probably not bother contacting you again.

I'll be surprised if he does to be honest. You may as well have just sent a message saying '**** you'

Tak · 23-05-2008, 12:37

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Originally Posted by divine`

I think if I received that message (from you) i'd probably not bother contacting you again.

Honestly I would have to agree. He did apologise and that message from you was quite harsh and abrupt. If it became a pattern of behaviour from him then fair enough I'd agree with what you said, but I don't think you've been "together" long enough for that sort of pattern to develop yet.

Pheebs · 23-05-2008, 12:47

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Originally Posted by Knip

I had a message yesterday (I hadnt contacted him at all since he said he would ring me on Tuesday night) which said "Are you free on Sunday, im sorry ive been absent xxxxxxxx"

Maybe I'm a sucker but awwwwwww that's sweet of him to apologise and rearrange!

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I sent him a message back saying "Maybe next time you say your going to call me you actually could, you wont get endless chances with me, been there done that, not going there again"

See thats my "I dont give a crap" hat firmly back on.

We shall see, at least he knows now I wont be messed about.

*eak*

He sure will know! Maybe he will just think "whoopsy" and sort out another time... maybe not

I would've been more inclined to have said something like:

"Oooh la la, Sunday! That's a roast day! I demand a roast! And then a snog! Nom nom nom *mwah*"

Yeh okay he didn't call but he is a man

I would give the benefit of the doubt (though I'm a bit like that and have a tendency to get walked on!)

If you like him and think you may have been a bit harsh maybe a text saying "wooah hooo hoo! I've had bad experiences - can you guess! Hehe! Silly me, still up for a drink though if you can excuse my muppetness!"

(nb I hope I never have to be single again, I would make such a tomfoolerly of myself it would be hilarious

)

*wubs wubs wubs*

Desmo · 23-05-2008, 13:37

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Originally Posted by Lana

He was/is treating you like a convenience.

Because he had some paperwork to do?

Chuckles · 23-05-2008, 13:41

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Originally Posted by Desmo

Because he had some paperwork to do?

Sounds like the male equivilent of "I'm washing my hair tonight"

Desmo · 23-05-2008, 13:53

You mean girls might actually make excuses too?

iCraig · 23-05-2008, 14:03

You're still very much in the casual stage of the dating. I know it's hard but you just need to relax and see how it goes. There's no real obligation to each other yet so him cancelling on you because something came up at work is pretty forgiveable IMO. It could have just been an excuse, but as you don't know, it's not wise to assume that's the truth.

Knipples · 23-05-2008, 14:20

Ok so I sent him a message earlier on facebook saying "Im sorry I bit your head off yesterday, id really like to see you on Sunday if you still want to"

I hope I havent peed him off too much, im just stressed out and not sleeping properly this week (and its that time of the month so im a grumpy moo on top - too much information I know!)

We shall see, and sorry for whinging on again!

23-05-2008, 12:32	#83
divine Moonshine Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Southampton Posts: 3,201	I think if I received that message (from you) i'd probably not bother contacting you again. I'll be surprised if he does to be honest. You may as well have just sent a message saying '**** you' __________________ Last edited by divine; 23-05-2008 at 12:35. Reason: added in missing word

23-05-2008, 13:53	#88
Desmo The Last Airbender Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Pigmopad Posts: 11,915	You mean girls might actually make excuses too? __________________

23-05-2008, 14:03	#89
iCraig iCustom User Title Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,250	You're still very much in the casual stage of the dating. I know it's hard but you just need to relax and see how it goes. There's no real obligation to each other yet so him cancelling on you because something came up at work is pretty forgiveable IMO. It could have just been an excuse, but as you don't know, it's not wise to assume that's the truth. __________________

23-05-2008, 12:26	#82
Lana Long Island Iced Tea Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 242	I mentally cheered when I read that. He was/is treating you like a convenience, and thats not cool. The fact that he did contact you suggests he is interested, but he blew you off twice which to me says he doesn't really value your time all that much. If he doesn't contact you again, it's because he isn't willing to work for it. If he does, give him a shot. The whole game playing thing is foolish, imo, so if you are being honest and telling him what you feel then i can't see how thats a mistake.

23-05-2008, 14:20	#90
Knipples nipples lol (o)(o) Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Brissle!!! Posts: 4,947	Ok so I sent him a message earlier on facebook saying "Im sorry I bit your head off yesterday, id really like to see you on Sunday if you still want to" I hope I havent peed him off too much, im just stressed out and not sleeping properly this week (and its that time of the month so im a grumpy moo on top - too much information I know!) We shall see, and sorry for whinging on again!