One night stands (following a discussion at work!)

[Will]

Agreed. I do admire people who can abstain and be morally strong and following their belief systems. However, I'm afraid I struggle with that as I don't see why you should abstain from such things. Whilst I'm a good loyal and honest person, I'm only human, with the urges that one gets, and the attraction that one has for the opposite sex. Sex doesn't have to **** up anything, in fact it should and could be perfectly normal thing for 2 consenting adults to do as and when they see fit. It's a perfectly normal basic animal instinct that is inherently human. Embrace it I say!

People seem to have such a stigma and negative attitude to people having sex and having fun. I find so many other things far more apalling in this world, to find something so natural and great "bad" is just odd IMO.

[Knipples]

Nicely put Will

[Muban]

There is a line though somewhere surely? Or do people really not mind how many partners their other half has had so long as they are safe?

Don't get me wrong, as I have said I don't judge others as beng bad and I could live with a partner having had a few. However, if it transpired that they had a different one nighter every weekend for the last 10 years..... now that I would have an issue with (rightly or wrongly). An extreme example I know, I'm just saying that for a lot of people there is a line, it's just a case of where that line is for each individual.

[IainB]

Originally Posted by Will

People seem to have such a stigma and negative attitude to people having sex and having fun. I find so many other things far more apalling in this world, to find something so natural and great "bad" is just odd IMO.

Woah there big boy....I dont find it bad, far from it...I love it but...I would just rather do it with someone I know than a random...probably because one night isnt long enough

[_dogma_]

I completely agree with Muban. I don't actually think I've got anything to add to what she's said, right now anyway.

[Will]

Originally Posted by Muban

There is a line though somewhere surely? Or do people really not mind how many partners their other half has had so long as they are safe?

Don't get me wrong, as I have said I don't judge others as beng bad and I could live with a partner having had a few. However, if it transpired that they had a different one nighter every weekend for the last 10 years..... now that I would have an issue with (rightly or wrongly). An extreme example I know, I'm just saying that for a lot of people there is a line, it's just a case of where that line is for each individual.

I suppose it depends on how active you are with the more long term partners you do have. I know of some people who have been together for years but have sex maybe once or twice a week. Whilst others are incessant!

Having some experience is favourable to being a bit erm... "new to it" I must admit. However as you say it's down to each person , I don't know how I'd feel if someone had had 100s of sexual partners, but having been with someone who had had none, I'd actually choose the person who had had a lot over the other.

[Will]

Originally Posted by IainB

Woah there big boy....I dont find it bad, far from it...I love it but...I would just rather do it with someone I know than a random...probably because one night isnt long enough

Oh I agree, sharing something with someone you knwo is clearly more fun, but sometimes the intrigue and adventure of discovering someone you don't know very well, or have only met at a party is also very exciting. It allows you to be a bit more adventureous and less inhibitive. It clearly isn't applicable to all.

[Muban]

Originally Posted by Will

I suppose it depends on how active you are with the more long term partners you do have. I know of some people who have been together for years but have sex maybe once or twice a week. Whilst others are incessant!

Am I unusual in the fact that I don't do one nighters or casual sex, can abstain for years if single but when in a relationship (even long term) I am...err..... incessant!

I still think most people have a line though

[Knipples]

Originally Posted by Muban

However, if it transpired that they had a different one nighter every weekend for the last 10 years..... now that I would have an issue with

I would too, but mainly because to me it would say they have issues with commitment, and I would just be another in a long line of conquests, rather than me having an issue with how many people they had been to bed with.

I do love debates like this, and hearing everyone elses opinions on stuff

[Knipples]

Originally Posted by Muban

can abstain for years if single but when in a relationship (even long term) I am...err..... incessant!

You arent alone there Mubs