The next step - giving up smoking.

Stan_Lite · 14-05-2009, 10:19

Thanks all for the encouragement.

One thing I would like to say.
I will not attempt to use my success to "force" Kelly into quitting. If she decides to quit of her own accord, I will support and help her if she wants.
I spent many years as a smoker and was subject to similar badgering on numerous occasions - oddly enough, I never managed to stop after being badgered into trying. I have been successful (so far) this time mostly due to the fact that this has been my choice - I have quit when I wanted to and how I wanted to.

I refuse to become one of those hypocritical ex-smokers who criticises and shuns smokers (especially my friends) - that would be condescending in the extreme.

Also, positive encouragement is very helpful to myself and anyone else trying to quit. Negative comments like "it's a filthy habit" or "it smells disgusting" do not help, they make me feel resentful not remorseful.
I can understand and appreciate people trying to help and I don't want to appear ungrateful for the wonderful support I've received so far but could we please keep it positive and please don't use my situation to put pressure on my flatmate to do something she's not ready to do (or anybody else, for that matter)?

Many thanks

14-05-2009, 10:19	#11
Stan_Lite Stan, Stan the FLASHER MAN! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: In bed with your sister Posts: 5,483	Thanks all for the encouragement. One thing I would like to say. I will not attempt to use my success to "force" Kelly into quitting. If she decides to quit of her own accord, I will support and help her if she wants. I spent many years as a smoker and was subject to similar badgering on numerous occasions - oddly enough, I never managed to stop after being badgered into trying. I have been successful (so far) this time mostly due to the fact that this has been my choice - I have quit when I wanted to and how I wanted to. I refuse to become one of those hypocritical ex-smokers who criticises and shuns smokers (especially my friends) - that would be condescending in the extreme. Also, positive encouragement is very helpful to myself and anyone else trying to quit. Negative comments like "it's a filthy habit" or "it smells disgusting" do not help, they make me feel resentful not remorseful. I can understand and appreciate people trying to help and I don't want to appear ungrateful for the wonderful support I've received so far but could we please keep it positive and please don't use my situation to put pressure on my flatmate to do something she's not ready to do (or anybody else, for that matter)? Many thanks __________________ Just because I have a short attention span doesn't mean I...