One night stands (following a discussion at work!)

[Kitten]

Originally Posted by Goose

For me, the only way forward is for someone to speak to me first, or for me to be very, very drunk.

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[Greenlizard0]

I agree with most points here. And that your way of doing things is fine, I know a few people like that.

I do like going out for a weekend beer and being sociable in that way so it's natural that almost all of my partners have too, been drinkers and more likely to have one night stands. Hence if it's to lead onto anything that would be how it starts. I find the "stick a jonny on and ..." a good way of looking at it.

I don't tend to bother any more though, not because of old school/chivalrous morels but probably because there's no buzz to it any more. Old..fart...

Rich L has pretty much already said my next point. I reckon it's just as chivalrous to err, do it right and get contexts clear from the beginning than deliberately avoid it.

[Garp]

It's never been something that's appealed to me either, for the same reasons as IanB.

[Stan_Lite]

I'm happily single and, for the moment, I prefer to keep it that way. I like sex so I'm very much in favour of one night stands. I see nothing wrong with it at all - as long as, as has already been mentioned, both participants are fully aware of the situation and consent.

A much better solution is a ****buddy. I had one for a while back in Shetland and it worked well. Neither of us were interested in having a relationship but we both enjoyed a good romp now and then so we had a sort of unspoken agreement. It was a bit of a win-win situation, we both received sexual gratification without having to pick some stranger up.

[IainB]

Originally Posted by Stan_Lite

A much better solution is a ****buddy. I had one for a while back in Shetland and it worked well. Neither of us were interested in having a relationship but we both enjoyed a good romp now and then so we had a sort of unspoken agreement. It was a bit of a win-win situation, we both received sexual gratification without having to pick some stranger up.

Now the above I would probably be more happier with, as you would know them...
Just wanted to confirm I am in no way a prude...far from it, maybe a bit toooooo open minded at times, just wanted peoples thoughts. Maybe its becuase Ive always had long term relationships and not done the whole going out at the weekends getting wasted, as I was always out Djing

[TinkerBell]

I'm not against other people having one night stands unless one is in a relationship, as long as they both are consenting adults.

For me it is a no go. I can't even imagine having sex with someone who I don't know, the only time I have ever talked about it or wanted to is when I want to have a relationship with that person.

[Goose]

Originally Posted by Kitten

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This is my problem, only less geeky: http://www.xkcd.com/439/

[vix]

I went through a rebellious phase and had quite a few but the thought of doing it now scares me to death!

[Tiggy]

I have had a grand total of 1 one night stand.

Never again. It made me realise that I needed to have an emotional connection with someone before doing the do with them for the first time.

I've never really been one for going out on the pull either. If I start talking to someone then it's because I find them interesting and want to talk.

For me, having a ****buddy isn't an option. I can understand how some people have them and for them it's great. But for me, again there has to be an emotional connection and it has to be more than jst being friends.

[Dee]

Have had one night stands, and a **** buddy. Both good in their own ways, and if I was still single, I wouldnt think twice about doing it again.