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[Roberta]

I agree with what others have said, ignore. She's obviously infatuated with you to be keeping this up after all that time and also must have nothing better to do. I'd also be telling the male friend straight that you don't want her mentioned again as it is in the past and that you've moved on.

I had an experience similar to yours and kittens with a so called friend. She copied everything I did, took the same courses and me and was furious if I ever did a qualification without her! It got to the point where I used to sneak about hiding what I was up to so she couldn't copy me which was just getting silly! In the end she managed to tell stories to the boss about me (at the job I got for her no less!) and put me in a position where I had to resign, although my boss was also to blame as he believed her the fool! Am now just happy I no longer have to handle all that nonsense!

Also, I have no doubt that people will be getting bored about her moaning about you by now and are probably avoiding her anyway! Just be all sweetness and let people work out who is telling the truth as it will be glaringly obvious!

[PvtPyle]

The bit I don't get from reading what you've posted is your male friend. What's the motivation behind him discussing mental girl with you? Additionally, if she has been spreading unfounded rumours and lies about you, then as your friend surely this guy should be distancing himself from mental girl as well?

Unfortunately you're between a rock and a hard place. If you show any sign that what she is saying and doing is getting to you, which it clearly is otherwise you wouldn't be posting about it, then that will give her the drive to continue doing it. On the flip side, you've been ignoring her for 6 months you say and she is still hanging around like a bad smell, so maybe a more pro-active approach would help..

Someone mentioned harassment, has mental girl made any attempt to contact you directly by telephone, email or where you live?

[Knipples]

I dont get what hes getting out of it either, and Ive kind of distanced myself from him as he is clearly still associating with someone as poisonous as she is. Hes friends with her husband too which is the awkward point I guess. Ive not asked him because again I dont want it getting back to her, although I have said to him that to me she doesnt exist anymore.

As for your point about the harassment, sadly thats where shes being clever, shes doing it all via third parties, or I hear about it via others, shes said nothing to me directly. I do have proof shes been unfaithful to her husband, and if I wanted to be nasty then I could show him that, its not my style but its getting to the point where I want to piss her off as much as shes trying to piss me off and make me out to be the bad one.

We do have other mutual friends who have sided with me after seeing what shes like, so I guess I can take some heart from that, and I guess people who dont know me dont matter, but it still bugs me that shes doing it.

[PvtPyle]

I wouldn't get involved in bringing her infidelities to her husband's attention. If she really is unhinged, you don't know what kind of response it might provoke.

A couple of years ago I cut someone out of my life completely. It was hard because we had mutual friends, there were social doings that I missed that I really wanted to be at, but I knew there'd be other opportunities to do stuff with people when she wasn't around. It actually took a great deal of commitment at first; ironically, when you think you're basically erasing them from your life therefore you won't think about them any more, I thought about her more than ever! But, over time it became normal and soon I got to a stage where I just never thought of her and people knew not to talk about her with me because I wasn't interested in anything they had to say.

Perhaps you can work on the same thing? Make it abundantly clear to your mutual friends that you just don't want to hear anything about her. If they really are worth their weight, they'll respect your wishes.

As for the male friend, I'd be inclined to give that some space for a while too. His behaviour seems a little odd to me..

[Dee]

Personally, Id smack the silly cow

Again, ignore her. Or say to your mutual friends, she obv fancies you, thats why she cant stop going on about you

[PvtPyle]

Originally Posted by Betty

Personally, Id smack the silly cow

Again, ignore her. Or say to your mutual friends, she obv fancies you, thats why she cant stop going on about you

Ha! I was tempted to advocate a cat fight myself, but I managed to restrain it.

[divine]

If you're being forum stalked, have a talk to some admins.

I expect even OcUK would be kind enough to let you post under a dupe name so as to be able to 'hide' yourself.

[Knipples]

Originally Posted by PvtPyle

Ha! I was tempted to advocate a cat fight myself, but I managed to restrain it.

I cant punch to save me life, but if someone wants to help me....

divine` If you're being forum stalked, have a talk to some admins.

I expect even OcUK would be kind enough to let you post under a dupe name so as to be able to 'hide' yourself.

I think im ok here, nobody else knows ive registered here since Kelly introduced me, and I checked the list of members before I posted.

Thanks everyone for all the advice, I am going to pretend she no longer exists and if anyone mentions her, I will do the "God does she fancy me or something?" line.

[Tak]

Originally Posted by Knip

I will do the "God does she fancy me or something?" line.

Sounds like a good idea That or reply with something about bunny boiler syndrome

[Jonny69]

I got mixed up with a bunny boiler at university and the first I heard of it was after about 6 months when she was spreading rumours about me. Next thing I knew her boyfriend was on my doorstep spoling for a fight over things I'd done to her, what I was saying etc. He turned out to be quite a rational bloke and when I took him through the situation he left questioning what the hell was going on.

Basically you've got to ignore these people and they eventually get bored and move on. You'll probably find she tries to look you up on the likes of Facebook, just block her out!