Can you change yourself? - Page 2

BBx · 07-11-2007, 14:58

Yeah I have to agree I have felt the same way Jamie. Especially with work, there are projects that I should have had done ages ago and haven't been done. Some aren't my fault and some lack motivation but recently I have made a breakthrough and sorted myself out.

Sometimes I feel like I have to lock myself in a big room without a computer or phone hassling me to get it done.

E.g. I've had the last couple of months to write some Service Level Agreements for Marketing (my dept) I haven't done it for various reasons, this week and next week we are doing troubleshooting roadshows in our regional offices and I thought that these would be a good thing for them to have. So due to the tight deadline I just got it done. I feel bad that it has taken something like this to get my ass into gear.

Anyway, its done now. Well its a starting point anyway and the bulk work has been done... I like to thing of the quote 'If things weren't done at the last minute, they wouldn't get done at all.'

Luckily this has motivated me to get other things done aswell that I have been putting off... I think this was helped by my boss being on hols as I work better without someone breathing down my neck.

Generally I like to think I have changed for the better.... being happy in myself is a big step and also I think one of the main things is that I have chilled out a lot in the last couple of years (ask my bro

)

Unfortunately some people can change for the worse, which is what I have seen recently, you just have to learn to ignore them I guess or accept that is who they are and get on with it.

BB x

petemc · 07-11-2007, 15:18

I don't know if I've changed myself or whether life has changed me. I think, for me, it started by saying yes to things I used to say no to. From that experiences and events have given me confidence. I don't think you get confidence by sitting at home foruming, I've learnt that much

Hell, I can take pictures of naked girls without glowing red. I know I've changed

I know theres still plenty to work on though. At the same time I still see things in me that haven't changed since I was a kid.

Haly · 07-11-2007, 15:30

I think you can. I know I've changed a lot in the past 3 years or so, and i'll hopefully change more as time goes by.
Does take a lot of motivation and mental strength though at times.

lostkat · 07-11-2007, 18:15

Like others have said, it's definitely possible. People probably wouldn't recognise the "me" of 6-7 years ago. I was extremely overweight, shy and introvert. Have really come out of my shell and changed myself for the better (I think) in the past few years, with a little help from my friends. When I came back from Uni, my home mates saw a different person and it they took a while to get used to it. I still annoy myself sometimes and have confidence issues, but on the whole I'm a much MUCH happier person. Still need to finish off the job on the weight side but hey, noone's perfect

Really hope you manage to sort it out Desmo

Justsomebloke · 07-11-2007, 18:54

Well

Sometimes i wonder just how different i am from the retribate i used to be. On bad days i feel no different & know i still have my dark side on good days i am indifferent.
Recently events have taken a bad turn family wise with some Serious troubles to be dealt with. The way i have reacted to these events shows me that i am a World away from that **** i used to be.
In some ways i am much more dangerous because i am more calculating about my actions, when i act it is Swiftly with no mercy & because there is no build up it is harder to tell that it was me that done it (whatever that may be)
On the other hand because my build up is slow it is more likely that i may take a more normal approach to given problem.
There is so much about me that is different sometimes i don't even recognise myself, having said that though you can Never get away from what you once was.
I confuse myself & am confused now just thinking about it.
I try to be normal but know inside i will Never be normal, just that fact is strange to deal with day in day out.
Fortunelty i have enough about myself to maintain the Bubble that is my life & not effect others in there own lives/lifes.
I live by a very strict set of rules & have a very high Morality but even when i was a Scumbag i still had high Morals. Weird a.
Have i changed ? Of course i have & for the Better

I'll finish by saying one last thing.
In this Fickle world of Bull****, Advertising & general BS hyped up crap the only True judgement of ones self is on ones actions.
Talk as always is very cheap but Actions in the face of advercity is what shows a mans true character.

This post makes no sence but I'll post the ***** anyway.

Desmo · 09-11-2007, 22:10

I keep meaing to reply to this but couldn't be bothered

^^^
See what I did there?

Seriously though, it's nice to see that other people are the same. It's not a major problem in my life, but it's a trait I'd rather not have. I want to be more of a do'er. I guess I just need to give myself a kick up the arse sometimes and remind myself of this thread

Lopez · 09-11-2007, 22:16

I suffer from apathy - I'm very much an "in fits and starts" person - I start jobs, then abandon them halfway through, then suddenly remember them weeks later and finish them in a fury of activity.
I'd change that if I could change anything

The only exception is at work, where I KICK ASS 24/7. I love my job. I absolutely love Major Accounts and I'm so glad I went for it (thanks to MB for a prod in the arse about applying!) I am never ever in a bad mood at work, everyone is mystified at how I remain so positive when we're missing linehaul all over the place, depots cocking up stuff.... I don't know how I do it either, I just have this seemingly inexhaustable energy at work. It makes my life so much easier!

07-11-2007, 14:58	#11
BBx Reverse SuBo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: London Posts: 8,673	Yeah I have to agree I have felt the same way Jamie. Especially with work, there are projects that I should have had done ages ago and haven't been done. Some aren't my fault and some lack motivation but recently I have made a breakthrough and sorted myself out. Sometimes I feel like I have to lock myself in a big room without a computer or phone hassling me to get it done. E.g. I've had the last couple of months to write some Service Level Agreements for Marketing (my dept) I haven't done it for various reasons, this week and next week we are doing troubleshooting roadshows in our regional offices and I thought that these would be a good thing for them to have. So due to the tight deadline I just got it done. I feel bad that it has taken something like this to get my ass into gear. Anyway, its done now. Well its a starting point anyway and the bulk work has been done... I like to thing of the quote 'If things weren't done at the last minute, they wouldn't get done at all.' Luckily this has motivated me to get other things done aswell that I have been putting off... I think this was helped by my boss being on hols as I work better without someone breathing down my neck. Generally I like to think I have changed for the better.... being happy in myself is a big step and also I think one of the main things is that I have chilled out a lot in the last couple of years (ask my bro ) Unfortunately some people can change for the worse, which is what I have seen recently, you just have to learn to ignore them I guess or accept that is who they are and get on with it. BB x Last edited by BBx; 07-11-2007 at 15:00.

07-11-2007, 15:18	#12
petemc Moonshine Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Nr Liverpewl Posts: 4,371	I don't know if I've changed myself or whether life has changed me. I think, for me, it started by saying yes to things I used to say no to. From that experiences and events have given me confidence. I don't think you get confidence by sitting at home foruming, I've learnt that much Hell, I can take pictures of naked girls without glowing red. I know I've changed I know theres still plenty to work on though. At the same time I still see things in me that haven't changed since I was a kid. __________________ Thats no hamster, its a space station!

07-11-2007, 15:30	#13
Haly Do you want to hide in my box? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 14,941	I think you can. I know I've changed a lot in the past 3 years or so, and i'll hopefully change more as time goes by. Does take a lot of motivation and mental strength though at times. __________________ Halycopter

07-11-2007, 18:15	#14
lostkat Good Cat Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 5,550	Like others have said, it's definitely possible. People probably wouldn't recognise the "me" of 6-7 years ago. I was extremely overweight, shy and introvert. Have really come out of my shell and changed myself for the better (I think) in the past few years, with a little help from my friends. When I came back from Uni, my home mates saw a different person and it they took a while to get used to it. I still annoy myself sometimes and have confidence issues, but on the whole I'm a much MUCH happier person. Still need to finish off the job on the weight side but hey, noone's perfect Really hope you manage to sort it out Desmo __________________ Oooooh Cecil, what have you done?

07-11-2007, 18:54	#15
Justsomebloke The Night Worker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,228	Well Sometimes i wonder just how different i am from the retribate i used to be. On bad days i feel no different & know i still have my dark side on good days i am indifferent. Recently events have taken a bad turn family wise with some Serious troubles to be dealt with. The way i have reacted to these events shows me that i am a World away from that ** i used to be. In some ways i am much more dangerous because i am more calculating about my actions, when i act it is Swiftly with no mercy & because there is no build up it is harder to tell that it was me that done it (whatever that may be) On the other hand because my build up is slow it is more likely that i may take a more normal approach to given problem. There is so much about me that is different sometimes i don't even recognise myself, having said that though you can Never get away from what you once was. I confuse myself & am confused now just thinking about it. I try to be normal but know inside i will Never be normal, just that fact is strange to deal with day in day out. Fortunelty i have enough about myself to maintain the Bubble that is my life & not effect others in there own lives/lifes. I live by a very strict set of rules & have a very high Morality but even when i was a Scumbag i still had high Morals. Weird a. Have i changed ? Of course i have & for the Better I'll finish by saying one last thing. In this Fickle world of Bull, Advertising & general BS hyped up crap the only True judgement of ones self is on ones actions. Talk as always is very cheap but Actions in the face of advercity is what shows a mans true character. This post makes no sence but I'll post the *** anyway. __________________

09-11-2007, 22:10	#16
Desmo The Last Airbender Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Pigmopad Posts: 11,915	I keep meaing to reply to this but couldn't be bothered ^^^ See what I did there? Seriously though, it's nice to see that other people are the same. It's not a major problem in my life, but it's a trait I'd rather not have. I want to be more of a do'er. I guess I just need to give myself a kick up the arse sometimes and remind myself of this thread

09-11-2007, 22:16	#17
Lopez Bad Cat Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Leicestershire Posts: 808	I suffer from apathy - I'm very much an "in fits and starts" person - I start jobs, then abandon them halfway through, then suddenly remember them weeks later and finish them in a fury of activity. I'd change that if I could change anything The only exception is at work, where I KICK ASS 24/7. I love my job. I absolutely love Major Accounts and I'm so glad I went for it (thanks to MB for a prod in the arse about applying!) I am never ever in a bad mood at work, everyone is mystified at how I remain so positive when we're missing linehaul all over the place, depots cocking up stuff.... I don't know how I do it either, I just have this seemingly inexhaustable energy at work. It makes my life so much easier! __________________ NO Last edited by Lopez; 09-11-2007 at 22:21.