One night stands (following a discussion at work!) - Page 3

Treefrog · 22-02-2010, 16:03

Pretty much the same opinion as Dee here. It must be a Piscean thing

I did have a one-night stand that I wouldn't mind if a partner had.
Hitched to London for a friend's funeral. Got to a mutual friend's, rang the wrong bell and the lady from the upstairs flat answered and let me in to the friend's flat.
Great evening meeting up with old friends even though it could have been for a better reason and we all went to the pub with their upstairs neighbour. Had a few drinks, got a carry out - beer music and a smoke, and their neighbour and I got chatting. She turned out to be doing post grad stuff at Brunel, one thing led to another and it was just the perfect way to finish off the day.
In the morning we kissed and went our separate ways. I still remember her and I hope she still remembers me.
In many ways, that night is summed up by the Stiff Little Fingers song "Touch and Go."

Dee · 22-02-2010, 16:37

Aw bless ya! Arent we sensitive souls

Muban · 22-02-2010, 18:14

It's not something that appeals to me at all so I understand why you feel like that. I'm also not a prude (after all who is to say you aren't a wild demon lover in the bedroom), but I just prefer to get up to the wild stuff with a partner rather than with a one off person. I've found that that sex just gets better the longer you are with the person rather than the other way around so it's another reason it doesn't appeal so much.

I'm not saying it's something I've never done, but it's something I'd never do again. I was really settling for what I could get rather than what I wanted and I felt worse for it afterwards. I don't judge others for it, if it makes both people happy and they are both ok with it then it's fine. That said (this my be a bit hypocritical), I don't know how I would feel if I found out someone I was having a serious relationship with had previously been a serial one nighter. I'd be ok with it happening on a couple of occasions or even if they had a regular **** buddy, if it was loads of different people all the time though it's something I'd need to seriously consider.

semi-pro waster · 22-02-2010, 19:56

I've had a couple of one night stands and don't see anything particularly wrong with it, it wasn't that I'd ever gone out with the intention of having a one night stand, they just happened - not sure if that is better or worse. While it's possibly not as 'rewarding' for want of a better phrase as having sex in a relationship, it has it's place so provided the parties don't have differing expectations of the end result it should be fine.

Pebs · 23-02-2010, 01:11

Ooooo I've never had one! A few times, in the name of being a free-spirited single individual who quite fancied the idea of using and abusing I've trotted out fully intending to seek out some meaningless no-strings fun. I dunno, maybe my standards are too high or I wasn't drunk enough but I never seemed to find anyone I fancied.
I almost had one once! But he was quite persistent and I ended up seeing him again....and again, for about a year!

Maybe it should go on my 'things to do before I'm 35' list! I need to start that list!

Matblack · 23-02-2010, 01:48

I don't get it

[read into that what you will]

MB

Will · 23-02-2010, 07:42

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rich_L

Perfectly acceptable, as long as you don't act like a nob by toying with the other person's emotions.

This.

Clearly I'd rather know the person first, but I think it's perfectly natural for 2 people to fornicate with one another if there's the attraction and they both know what they want and are getting into.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dee

Have had one night stands, and a **** buddy. Both good in their own ways, and if I was still single, I wouldnt think twice about doing it again.

Yup agreed 100%

Kitten · 23-02-2010, 11:59

Agreed with the great Willhelm.

Will · 23-02-2010, 12:08

I'm not great... value for money maybe though?!

Kitten · 23-02-2010, 12:20

I think a lot of people who say they never have, or will have a one-nighter, are not including people that they know that they have one-offs with. Seems to happen loads if this conversation comes up - 'Oh it wasn't a one night stand, I've known him since school'. Still a one-night stand in my book!

22-02-2010, 16:03	#21
Treefrog Survivor Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Chell Heath, Stoke-on-Trent Posts: 1,761	Pretty much the same opinion as Dee here. It must be a Piscean thing I did have a one-night stand that I wouldn't mind if a partner had. Hitched to London for a friend's funeral. Got to a mutual friend's, rang the wrong bell and the lady from the upstairs flat answered and let me in to the friend's flat. Great evening meeting up with old friends even though it could have been for a better reason and we all went to the pub with their upstairs neighbour. Had a few drinks, got a carry out - beer music and a smoke, and their neighbour and I got chatting. She turned out to be doing post grad stuff at Brunel, one thing led to another and it was just the perfect way to finish off the day. In the morning we kissed and went our separate ways. I still remember her and I hope she still remembers me. In many ways, that night is summed up by the Stiff Little Fingers song "Touch and Go." __________________ Commit random kindness and senseless acts of beauty

22-02-2010, 18:14	#23
Muban Shoes, Boobs & Corsets Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: The fastest town in Scotland Posts: 1,882	It's not something that appeals to me at all so I understand why you feel like that. I'm also not a prude (after all who is to say you aren't a wild demon lover in the bedroom), but I just prefer to get up to the wild stuff with a partner rather than with a one off person. I've found that that sex just gets better the longer you are with the person rather than the other way around so it's another reason it doesn't appeal so much. I'm not saying it's something I've never done, but it's something I'd never do again. I was really settling for what I could get rather than what I wanted and I felt worse for it afterwards. I don't judge others for it, if it makes both people happy and they are both ok with it then it's fine. That said (this my be a bit hypocritical), I don't know how I would feel if I found out someone I was having a serious relationship with had previously been a serial one nighter. I'd be ok with it happening on a couple of occasions or even if they had a regular **** buddy, if it was loads of different people all the time though it's something I'd need to seriously consider. __________________ well, not to put a too fine point to it, he was discovered.. in the lounge

22-02-2010, 19:56	#24
semi-pro waster Provider of sensible advice about homosexuals Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: London Posts: 2,615	I've had a couple of one night stands and don't see anything particularly wrong with it, it wasn't that I'd ever gone out with the intention of having a one night stand, they just happened - not sure if that is better or worse. While it's possibly not as 'rewarding' for want of a better phrase as having sex in a relationship, it has it's place so provided the parties don't have differing expectations of the end result it should be fine. __________________ "Your friend is the man that knows all about you, and still likes you." - Elbert Hubbard

23-02-2010, 01:11	#25
Pebs Easymouth Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 6,716	Ooooo I've never had one! A few times, in the name of being a free-spirited single individual who quite fancied the idea of using and abusing I've trotted out fully intending to seek out some meaningless no-strings fun. I dunno, maybe my standards are too high or I wasn't drunk enough but I never seemed to find anyone I fancied. I almost had one once! But he was quite persistent and I ended up seeing him again....and again, for about a year! Maybe it should go on my 'things to do before I'm 35' list! I need to start that list! __________________ ...faster you naughty little monkey! Running through hell, heaven can wait!

23-02-2010, 01:48	#26
Matblack Baby Bore Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Svalbard Posts: 9,770	I don't get it [read into that what you will] MB __________________ "we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two"

22-02-2010, 16:37	#22
Dee Combat Spanker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,292	Aw bless ya! Arent we sensitive souls

23-02-2010, 11:59	#28
Kitten Spinky-Spank Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: 668. The Neighbour of the Beast Posts: 11,226	Agreed with the great Willhelm. __________________ "You only get one life. There's no God, no rules, except for those you accept or create for yourself. Then once it's over... it's over. Dreamless sleep for ever and ever. So why not be happy while you're here?" Nate Fisher

23-02-2010, 12:08	#29
Will BBx woz 'ere :P Join Date: Jan 1970 Posts: 2,147,487,208	I'm not great... value for money maybe though?! __________________ *No No!*

23-02-2010, 12:20	#30
Kitten Spinky-Spank Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: 668. The Neighbour of the Beast Posts: 11,226	I think a lot of people who say they never have, or will have a one-nighter, are not including people that they know that they have one-offs with. Seems to happen loads if this conversation comes up - 'Oh it wasn't a one night stand, I've known him since school'. Still a one-night stand in my book! __________________ "You only get one life. There's no God, no rules, except for those you accept or create for yourself. Then once it's over... it's over. Dreamless sleep for ever and ever. So why not be happy while you're here?" Nate Fisher