One night stands (following a discussion at work!) - Page 5

Muban · 23-02-2010, 14:43

Yup thats exactly what I mean Knip. It's not about the exact number of partners really, it's what their actions say about them. A little fun is one thing, but having to move town because you have slept with everyone is something else

leowyatt · 23-02-2010, 14:47

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Originally Posted by Will

I'd actually choose the person who had had a lot over the other.

quantity doesn't necessarily indicate quality

It takes time for you to learn about each other and I would have thought those people who have had lots of partners could be stuck in their ways but those less experienced are more eager to please so to speak

Will · 23-02-2010, 14:53

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Originally Posted by Muban

Am I unusual in the fact that I don't do one nighters or casual sex, can abstain for years if single but when in a relationship (even long term) I am...err..... incessant!

I still think most people have a line though

Oh absolutely, and often it's an unfortunate double standard which I think is wrong, but it does exist. And glad to see you're a bit of a sex feind!

But ever the laaaaady of course!

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Originally Posted by Muban

Yup thats exactly what I mean Knip. It's not about the exact number of partners really, it's what their actions say about them. A little fun is one thing, but having to move town because you have slept with everyone is something else

Oh don't get me wrong I don't see the appeal of constant excess, however, a little fun from time to time, is a healthy thing to get wouldn't you agree? Knowing the person intimately and deeply for those occaisional moments you decide to have fun isn't always a necessity for me.

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Originally Posted by leowyatt

quantity doesn't necessarily indicate quality

It takes time for you to learn about each other and I would have thought those people who have had lots of partners could be stuck in their ways but those less experienced are more eager to please so to speak

Quantity doesn't equal quality of course, I agree entirely. However, experience > inexperience though open mindedness and experimentational attitude > *. So I agree with what you're saying, but neither statement is mutually exclusive either.

mejinks · 23-02-2010, 23:13

I was always quite proud of the fact that I had never intended having a one night stand and the weekend I decided to lower my morals and have one, I ended up marrying her....

Lomster · 24-02-2010, 17:15

I have had a couple of one night stands with people I have known as in friends or friends of friends.
I have had one proper one night stand while drunk and although it was awesome sex I am cringed when I see him :/ not at all my type.

Pheebs · 24-02-2010, 19:41

Hmmm.

If I was single, I couldn't have a one night stand with a random person. Firstly because of confidence about how I look and secondly I don't know them... I'm a girl and don't want to be put in a situation which could end up sticky (haw dee haw) and plus I don't know where their bits have been! That freaks me out! Even if it was a guy and they wear a condom still would freak me out of catching something! Ew!

However... with someone I know. Well that's different. I need to be comfortable with people and need to be attracted to them... that's the only way that's really going to happen for me. Maybe not even attracted... just comfortable with them. I dunno. I'm a bit of a weirdo and don't realise/find people I have just met attractive at all physically (I just.. I dunno. There's a link missing in my brain, I just talk to people because they're people and I like people... not cos I think they're a fitty. General rule of thumb: I only find people attractive once I've got to know them. Possibly why I don't get things like pR0n and stuff? Who knows!). So I never really feel physically like boinking anyone when I first meet them. (exception = Captain Jack Sparrow)

It's a hard one (fnar) and I think all situations vary massively.

My opinion though - each to their own. As long as they're not screwing up other peoples lives and everyone knows where they stand then why not?

I wouldn't judge anyone who did it/hold it against them. Even if it's something they've done and it's wrong (ie in a relationship). As long as it wasn't done with maliciousness and intent, I don't think I would defriend anyone for it/judge them as I guess people are just human and make screw ups sometimes.

I've become a lot more open minded lately with stuff like that though.

Chuckles · 24-02-2010, 22:48

It's really 2 questions isn't it.

The question of whether a one night stand is morally acceptable is easy - Yes it is, at is a consensual actual act between 2 people which harms noone else.

On an individual level, I guess it's different. If you are the kind of person that will get upset afterwoods if there is no further contact - It's probably best not for you. I suspect that even now, there is probably more of a stigma attached for women, even if there shouldn't be.

Personally, I think they are awesome

23-02-2010, 14:43	#41
Muban Shoes, Boobs & Corsets Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: The fastest town in Scotland Posts: 1,882	Yup thats exactly what I mean Knip. It's not about the exact number of partners really, it's what their actions say about them. A little fun is one thing, but having to move town because you have slept with everyone is something else __________________ well, not to put a too fine point to it, he was discovered.. in the lounge

24-02-2010, 17:15	#45
Lomster Custom Title Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Fay-Lom mansion Posts: 2,787	I have had a couple of one night stands with people I have known as in friends or friends of friends. I have had one proper one night stand while drunk and although it was awesome sex I am cringed when I see him :/ not at all my type. __________________

24-02-2010, 19:41	#46
Pheebs Deep Throat Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 6,512	Hmmm. If I was single, I couldn't have a one night stand with a random person. Firstly because of confidence about how I look and secondly I don't know them... I'm a girl and don't want to be put in a situation which could end up sticky (haw dee haw) and plus I don't know where their bits have been! That freaks me out! Even if it was a guy and they wear a condom still would freak me out of catching something! Ew! However... with someone I know. Well that's different. I need to be comfortable with people and need to be attracted to them... that's the only way that's really going to happen for me. Maybe not even attracted... just comfortable with them. I dunno. I'm a bit of a weirdo and don't realise/find people I have just met attractive at all physically (I just.. I dunno. There's a link missing in my brain, I just talk to people because they're people and I like people... not cos I think they're a fitty. General rule of thumb: I only find people attractive once I've got to know them. Possibly why I don't get things like pR0n and stuff? Who knows!). So I never really feel physically like boinking anyone when I first meet them. (exception = Captain Jack Sparrow) It's a hard one (fnar) and I think all situations vary massively. My opinion though - each to their own. As long as they're not screwing up other peoples lives and everyone knows where they stand then why not? I wouldn't judge anyone who did it/hold it against them. Even if it's something they've done and it's wrong (ie in a relationship). As long as it wasn't done with maliciousness and intent, I don't think I would defriend anyone for it/judge them as I guess people are just human and make screw ups sometimes. I've become a lot more open minded lately with stuff like that though. __________________ http://www.spiffingdesigns.co.uk Last edited by Pheebs; 24-02-2010 at 19:47.

24-02-2010, 22:48	#47
Chuckles '09 sexual conquests: 4.5 Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,075	It's really 2 questions isn't it. The question of whether a one night stand is morally acceptable is easy - Yes it is, at is a consensual actual act between 2 people which harms noone else. On an individual level, I guess it's different. If you are the kind of person that will get upset afterwoods if there is no further contact - It's probably best not for you. I suspect that even now, there is probably more of a stigma attached for women, even if there shouldn't be. Personally, I think they are awesome __________________