To anyone who's wondered where I've been

Matblack · 29-08-2013, 09:38

Hello All

I've been gone so long you've probably forgotten who I am

Here is a brief summary of the last three years

New child
Horrible work stress/ environment coupled with not being able to be as dedicated at work as I had been
Taking on too much at work
Wife and daughter wonderful
Stress, paranoia, anger
Clinical depression leading to being prescribed Citalopram
Lots of support from family
Tiredness
Isolation
Wife and daughter still wonderful and very tolerant
Very very tired all the time
Unable to operate at work
Generally feeling weird
Decided to move to the seaside
Sold house (ongoing)
Bought house (ongoing)
Parents also moving to seaside
Secured some contract work with the worlds largest educational company which I can do in new location
Wife and daughter still wonderful
Diagnosed with low thyroid
Now being treated for low thyroid which might have a lot to do with the depressive symptoms
Resigned
Started on Levothyroxine today, already feel like I have a lot more energy

Throughout all this has been an increasing tendency to isolate myself from friends and to reduce my online presence. I'm not sure why when what I needed most was people around me, but people who are depressed aren't necessarily rational. Those of you who I have seen will have noticed that I'm a lot quieter and more introspective then I have been in the past and often engage with Amelie if she is there, in an attempt to avoid conversation and eye contact, sorry if you have experienced this it must he hard when someone you think you know changes their personality so completely.

Throughout all this Heather has been great, really supportive despite working very long days and being tired herself. We are both looking forward to moving and bringing up Amelie 300yrds from the beach and in a more relaxed environment.

I'll be doing some part time work and sorting the new house out (it really needs some work!) then ramping up my hours when Amelie goes to school, she's three now and starts in Reception next year!

I really hope that the thyroid treatment will help, I'm already feeling a bit better although this may be a placebo effect from the first dose, we'll see.

Once we've moved and are sorted I'd really like to try and see more of you all and now we'll be able to offer a more interesting place to come than Maidstone!

Depression is weird, a lot of people including a lot of people on here will have far more reasons than me to be unhappy, I have a lot of things that people see as positives in life, a wonderful family, a nice lifestyle and good friends. Why should I have any reason to be depressed?

The answer is I don't know; from what I do know and have read it is less about environment then it is a natural tendency towards a chemical imbalance in the brain. I can trace a lot of the triggers back to work and my job changing and becoming more stressful but many people would have just coped or changed jobs, I didn't I shut down withdrew into myself.

Anyway, I hope you are all well.

MB

Pickers · 29-08-2013, 10:01

Oh buddy - had no idea on half of those things! Big man hugs!! X

I am following your house purchase a little and am dead excited for you!
Fingers crosses for the treatment - my mum had the same and her energy quickly returned in the grand scheme of things!
X

volospian · 29-08-2013, 10:22

Welcome back. All that sort of stuff is an arse. I went off the rails a while ago and nearly lost everything, mainly because I withdrew into myself and wouldn't talk to people. I had nightmares, was paranoid, anxious, angry, confused...

Apparently I was showing symptoms of PTSD and had been getting progressively worse as the years went by. It all stemmed from things that happened in my life when I was younger. Sue talked me into going to a councilor who helped me come to terms with things and move on. Sue was amazing. She came to the sessions with me and and if she hadn't been there, I'm not sure I'd have had the strength to delve into the past and come to terms with it.

I've also changed my job, and we're buying a new house. It's all part of that "new start" thing where we can put "what was" behind us and know that "what will be" is the important part. I can now say that life is enjoyable again.

Good to hear you're getting though it.

Nutcase · 29-08-2013, 11:16

I've also been following the house buying exploits - that part at least I am most jealous of! Good to see the rest looks to be coming back together

Stan_Lite · 29-08-2013, 13:21

Very similar to my Dad.
He was initially diagnosed with depression and given anti-depressants - which did absolutely nothing, apart from give him hallucinations. He was eventually diagnosed with an under-active thyroid and given the correct medication. He noticed an improvement almost immediately but they had him on the wrong dosage for a long time and he was prone to mood swings. Now they have him on the correct dosage, he's much, much better.

Hopefully you'll feel the benefits now you've been correctly diagnosed and have taken steps to remove potentially destructive situations from your life. You're lucky to have a loving and supportive wife and family. My Mam helped my Dad enormously just by standing by him, understanding and showing him love - much as Heather has done for you.

Good luck mate

Knipples · 29-08-2013, 16:58

Hello!

Under active thyroid is an absolute bugger, I was diagnosed at the beginning of the year and have been on thyroxine since. I went in the doctors and told them I thought I was dying because I felt so bad. Glad it's been detected.

Good luck with the moving. Very jealous of you moving to live by the sea

Big hugs and OH MY GOD I CAN'T BELIEVE AMELIE IS 3 ALREADY!!

Tak · 29-08-2013, 18:05

I have been watching your house stuff via fb; I moved on Saturday. I wondered how you guys were getting on - I just assumed you were seeing the others who were more local/closer friends. I'm sorry about what you've gone through. I hope that the meds and the move help and know that your friends are here for you xx

vix · 29-08-2013, 22:44

Aw just assumed you were busy with the little one.

There is no reason for depression, it's an illness

hope Citalopram works for you - if you decide to come off it do it very very slowly!

Really cool that you are moving to the beach though

Blackstar · 29-08-2013, 23:16

Try to keep up with you and H on facebook as much as I can. I'm guilty for isolating myself too. The last couple years have been really tough for us and things aren't set to get any easier. I hope that once you have settled in that we might be able to come and visit.

Mark · 29-08-2013, 23:54

Under thyroid is a pain in the ****. I've had one 'under' and one 'normal' test in the past year, so we'll see what the next one says. It's amazing how much impact on your body one thing can have.

Also been following your house move with envious eyes (especially as I have experience with my parents living a little down the coast from where you're going, though they want to move 'up north').

Fingers crossed they've got the medication right and it's not placebo, and fingers crossed for the house move too.

29-08-2013, 09:38	#1
Matblack Baby Bore Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Svalbard Posts: 9,770	To anyone who's wondered where I've been Hello All I've been gone so long you've probably forgotten who I am Here is a brief summary of the last three years New child Horrible work stress/ environment coupled with not being able to be as dedicated at work as I had been Taking on too much at work Wife and daughter wonderful Stress, paranoia, anger Clinical depression leading to being prescribed Citalopram Lots of support from family Tiredness Isolation Wife and daughter still wonderful and very tolerant Very very tired all the time Unable to operate at work Generally feeling weird Decided to move to the seaside Sold house (ongoing) Bought house (ongoing) Parents also moving to seaside Secured some contract work with the worlds largest educational company which I can do in new location Wife and daughter still wonderful Diagnosed with low thyroid Now being treated for low thyroid which might have a lot to do with the depressive symptoms Resigned Started on Levothyroxine today, already feel like I have a lot more energy Throughout all this has been an increasing tendency to isolate myself from friends and to reduce my online presence. I'm not sure why when what I needed most was people around me, but people who are depressed aren't necessarily rational. Those of you who I have seen will have noticed that I'm a lot quieter and more introspective then I have been in the past and often engage with Amelie if she is there, in an attempt to avoid conversation and eye contact, sorry if you have experienced this it must he hard when someone you think you know changes their personality so completely. Throughout all this Heather has been great, really supportive despite working very long days and being tired herself. We are both looking forward to moving and bringing up Amelie 300yrds from the beach and in a more relaxed environment. I'll be doing some part time work and sorting the new house out (it really needs some work!) then ramping up my hours when Amelie goes to school, she's three now and starts in Reception next year! I really hope that the thyroid treatment will help, I'm already feeling a bit better although this may be a placebo effect from the first dose, we'll see. Once we've moved and are sorted I'd really like to try and see more of you all and now we'll be able to offer a more interesting place to come than Maidstone! Depression is weird, a lot of people including a lot of people on here will have far more reasons than me to be unhappy, I have a lot of things that people see as positives in life, a wonderful family, a nice lifestyle and good friends. Why should I have any reason to be depressed? The answer is I don't know; from what I do know and have read it is less about environment then it is a natural tendency towards a chemical imbalance in the brain. I can trace a lot of the triggers back to work and my job changing and becoming more stressful but many people would have just coped or changed jobs, I didn't I shut down withdrew into myself. Anyway, I hope you are all well. MB __________________ "we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two"

29-08-2013, 10:01	#2
Pickers Absinthe Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Cornwall Posts: 2,692	Oh buddy - had no idea on half of those things! Big man hugs!! X I am following your house purchase a little and am dead excited for you! Fingers crosses for the treatment - my mum had the same and her energy quickly returned in the grand scheme of things! X __________________ Pictures

29-08-2013, 13:21	#5
Stan_Lite Stan, Stan the FLASHER MAN! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: In bed with your sister Posts: 5,483	Very similar to my Dad. He was initially diagnosed with depression and given anti-depressants - which did absolutely nothing, apart from give him hallucinations. He was eventually diagnosed with an under-active thyroid and given the correct medication. He noticed an improvement almost immediately but they had him on the wrong dosage for a long time and he was prone to mood swings. Now they have him on the correct dosage, he's much, much better. Hopefully you'll feel the benefits now you've been correctly diagnosed and have taken steps to remove potentially destructive situations from your life. You're lucky to have a loving and supportive wife and family. My Mam helped my Dad enormously just by standing by him, understanding and showing him love - much as Heather has done for you. Good luck mate __________________ Just because I have a short attention span doesn't mean I...

29-08-2013, 18:05	#7
Tak L'Oréal Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Portsmouth Posts: 9,977	I have been watching your house stuff via fb; I moved on Saturday. I wondered how you guys were getting on - I just assumed you were seeing the others who were more local/closer friends. I'm sorry about what you've gone through. I hope that the meds and the move help and know that your friends are here for you xx __________________ The look on your face when a toddler rips out your heart and shows it to you? Priceless.... For everything else, there's FWOOSH!

29-08-2013, 22:44	#8
vix Penelope Pitstop Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 4,426	Aw just assumed you were busy with the little one. There is no reason for depression, it's an illness hope Citalopram works for you - if you decide to come off it do it very very slowly! Really cool that you are moving to the beach though __________________

29-08-2013, 10:22	#3
volospian Vodka Martini Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 786	Welcome back. All that sort of stuff is an arse. I went off the rails a while ago and nearly lost everything, mainly because I withdrew into myself and wouldn't talk to people. I had nightmares, was paranoid, anxious, angry, confused... Apparently I was showing symptoms of PTSD and had been getting progressively worse as the years went by. It all stemmed from things that happened in my life when I was younger. Sue talked me into going to a councilor who helped me come to terms with things and move on. Sue was amazing. She came to the sessions with me and and if she hadn't been there, I'm not sure I'd have had the strength to delve into the past and come to terms with it. I've also changed my job, and we're buying a new house. It's all part of that "new start" thing where we can put "what was" behind us and know that "what will be" is the important part. I can now say that life is enjoyable again. Good to hear you're getting though it.

29-08-2013, 11:16	#4
Nutcase Moonshine Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Chelmsford, innit! Posts: 3,979	I've also been following the house buying exploits - that part at least I am most jealous of! Good to see the rest looks to be coming back together

29-08-2013, 23:16	#9
Blackstar Ambassador of Awesome Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Edinburger Posts: 3,676	Try to keep up with you and H on facebook as much as I can. I'm guilty for isolating myself too. The last couple years have been really tough for us and things aren't set to get any easier. I hope that once you have settled in that we might be able to come and visit. __________________ Jim Garrahy's Fudge Kitchen

29-08-2013, 23:54	#10
Mark Screaming Orgasm Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Newbury Posts: 15,194	Under thyroid is a pain in the ****. I've had one 'under' and one 'normal' test in the past year, so we'll see what the next one says. It's amazing how much impact on your body one thing can have. Also been following your house move with envious eyes (especially as I have experience with my parents living a little down the coast from where you're going, though they want to move 'up north'). Fingers crossed they've got the medication right and it's not placebo, and fingers crossed for the house move too.