As a firm believer in fate, I cant help but wonder…

Dee · 30-06-2008, 14:45

I've found out today a good friend of mine living in Malawi has been struck down with Malaria. She is on the mend, but its still one hell of a nasty disease. I know other people that have had it at least ten times, they must become partially immune, as its never as bad as the first time.

As most of you know, my parents caught it when me and my brother were seven and three years old respectively. I can remember saying I didn’t like to think of what would have happened to us had my parents passed away. I hate even thinking about it, but what would have happened? According to fate, they were supposed to live, we were supposed to move back to the UK, and I am supposed to lead this life.

But if they had died? Where would I be? Where would my brother be? Would we have moved in with my grandparents? Or with an auntie and uncle? Would me and my brother have been separated? Would we have gone to the same school? Would we have had the same friends? Would I have been a social outcast for losing my parents as such a young age?

Would I be where I am today?

BBx · 30-06-2008, 14:47

thats bad news... hope she recovers... I know what you mean though, how different your life would be, for a start you would have never have posted that thread...

Am taking my last week of Malaria tablet this week.... THANK GOODNESS they make me wanna hurl.

BB x

LeperousDust · 30-06-2008, 14:52

Life is just potentially millions of different choices, some of which you don't make. Thats about as close as i get to "fate". It is interesting to think, but what's happened has happened, hence you't change that fact. But you do have some control over what can happen, so look that way!

//Edit: Its like driving a car looking out the back window

Dee · 30-06-2008, 14:56

But I think my whole life has already been mapped out for me. Whatever happens to me now, is already planned.

Even if I have to make some decisions along the way, I was already going to make them anyway! Did that make sense?

LeperousDust · 30-06-2008, 14:58

No

But only because i don't like not being in control of where i take myself.

He says as he blatantly fails uni through lack of motivation, jeez got contradiction?

Wossi · 30-06-2008, 14:59

Quote:

Originally Posted by Betty

But I think my whole life has already been mapped out for me. Whatever happens to me now, is already planned.

Even if I have to make some decisions along the way, I was already going to make them anyway! Did that make sense?

I don't the like the sound of that as it means that no matter what you choose to do at points in your life, nothing can change. I prefer to think that my life is not mapped out so anything I do changes it that little bit more.

Chuckles · 30-06-2008, 15:00

Believing in fate sounds like a cop out to me.

You make your own destiny.

Dee · 30-06-2008, 15:03

Yes, but you dont know that ultimatley the decisions you make, were already mapped out for you.

I didnt want to spark a debate, was simply wondering what might have happened.

LeperousDust · 30-06-2008, 15:07

Well don't worry about it, becuase it wouldn't have happened if your life is already mapped out

//Debate

Dee · 30-06-2008, 15:08

Thats what I am trying to say you goon

It was obviously meant to happen this way, I was simply pondering what would have happened if it had gone the other way, which it couldnt have done, because its already been mapped out!!!!

My head hurts

30-06-2008, 14:45	#1
Dee Combat Spanker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,292	As a firm believer in fate, I cant help but wonder… I've found out today a good friend of mine living in Malawi has been struck down with Malaria. She is on the mend, but its still one hell of a nasty disease. I know other people that have had it at least ten times, they must become partially immune, as its never as bad as the first time. As most of you know, my parents caught it when me and my brother were seven and three years old respectively. I can remember saying I didn’t like to think of what would have happened to us had my parents passed away. I hate even thinking about it, but what would have happened? According to fate, they were supposed to live, we were supposed to move back to the UK, and I am supposed to lead this life. But if they had died? Where would I be? Where would my brother be? Would we have moved in with my grandparents? Or with an auntie and uncle? Would me and my brother have been separated? Would we have gone to the same school? Would we have had the same friends? Would I have been a social outcast for losing my parents as such a young age? Would I be where I am today?

30-06-2008, 14:52	#3
LeperousDust Bananaman Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Liverpool/Edinburgh Posts: 4,817	Life is just potentially millions of different choices, some of which you don't make. Thats about as close as i get to "fate". It is interesting to think, but what's happened has happened, hence you't change that fact. But you do have some control over what can happen, so look that way! //Edit: Its like driving a car looking out the back window __________________

30-06-2008, 14:58	#5
LeperousDust Bananaman Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Liverpool/Edinburgh Posts: 4,817	No But only because i don't like not being in control of where i take myself. He says as he blatantly fails uni through lack of motivation, jeez got contradiction? __________________

30-06-2008, 15:00	#7
Chuckles '09 sexual conquests: 4.5 Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,075	Believing in fate sounds like a cop out to me. You make your own destiny. __________________

30-06-2008, 15:07	#9
LeperousDust Bananaman Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Liverpool/Edinburgh Posts: 4,817	Well don't worry about it, becuase it wouldn't have happened if your life is already mapped out //Debate __________________

30-06-2008, 14:47	#2
BBx Reverse SuBo Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: London Posts: 8,673	thats bad news... hope she recovers... I know what you mean though, how different your life would be, for a start you would have never have posted that thread... Am taking my last week of Malaria tablet this week.... THANK GOODNESS they make me wanna hurl. BB x

30-06-2008, 14:56	#4
Dee Combat Spanker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,292	But I think my whole life has already been mapped out for me. Whatever happens to me now, is already planned. Even if I have to make some decisions along the way, I was already going to make them anyway! Did that make sense?

30-06-2008, 15:03	#8
Dee Combat Spanker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,292	Yes, but you dont know that ultimatley the decisions you make, were already mapped out for you. I didnt want to spark a debate, was simply wondering what might have happened.

30-06-2008, 15:08	#10
Dee Combat Spanker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,292	Thats what I am trying to say you goon It was obviously meant to happen this way, I was simply pondering what would have happened if it had gone the other way, which it couldnt have done, because its already been mapped out!!!! My head hurts