I don't think society has a problem with disfigurement and disability...

cleanbluesky · 10-09-2008, 16:03

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7607905.stm

I know these people have it harsh, but I think its the natural order for disfigured people to have it harsh. Could be a lot worse than people looking twice at you in the street...

killerkebab · 10-09-2008, 16:07

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Originally Posted by cleanbluesky

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7607905.stm

I know these people have it harsh, but I think its the natural order for disfigured people to have it harsh. Could be a lot worse than people looking twice at you in the street...

She can't change that people look at her twice - isn't that a normal reaction to seeing something totally out of the ordinary?

Admiral Huddy · 10-09-2008, 16:09

"others turn away out of embarrassment. "

I think this is a false statement.. I think that people are initially drawn to something different.. which it is .. then are curios... but then don't want to offend the person.. I don't think it's embarrassment.

"We don't have to be PC about it. We can't deal with it until people are aware of what they are thinking."

I don't think this will change becuase of the human nature of curosity.. but it's nothing more really.

Metalface Mark · 10-09-2008, 16:09

She actually looks alright in the advert video below.

Edit: She looks okay because she is infact a different woman

Metalface Mark · 10-09-2008, 16:11

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Originally Posted by Admiral Huddy

"others turn away out of embarrassment. "

I think this is a false statement.. I think that people are initially drawn to something different.. which it is .. then are curios... but then don't want to offend the person.. I don't think it's embarrassment.

"We don't have to be PC about it. We can't deal with it until people are aware of what they are thinking."

I don't think this will change becuase of the human nature of curosity.. but it's nothing more really.

Thats right. As some people know, i have a condition with my right leg which has a form of gigantism, it annoys me though, when people stare, but im always happy when people ask me why i have a huge resident evil style leg (you can only see if im wearing shorts).

I think people with disabilities are quite happy for people to ask about things, rather than staring at you like you like a freak.

Pebs · 10-09-2008, 16:21

*stares at MM*

It cant be nice, being the focus of peoples curiosity, but Huddy's right, it is very rarely born out of anything other than interest.

Dee · 10-09-2008, 16:36

Believe it or not, I was going to post a thread about this earlier.

When I see people like this in the street, they are no different to anyone else IMO, they always seem to be on the lookout for people looking at them though, so when/if we make eye contact, I normally smile at them and carry on. Its not hard not to stare tbh

JUMPURS · 10-09-2008, 19:27

My gf's brother was just over from the states and his is disabled. He walks with a cane, has a brain injury and some of his muscles in his face don't work great so he can't really pull his top lip down. And when he was over, i didn't notice anyone staring at him, people just took him as normal really.
Although he doesn't have serious disfigurements or that, it is still noticeable, plus he has some scars. But like i said, nobody stared, and whenever we where places everyone was very helpful if we needed it (although we didn't need much help)

Denic · 14-09-2008, 21:34

My brother is disabled, his main disability is with his feet and legs, but he has a number of other problems.

His feet arch out badly to the sides, so he doesn't walk like the normal person.

It is very noticeable to other people and I think people look just out of curiosity, it's hard to ignore it and not to look.

In my opinion it's fine for people to look and see what's going on, and then continue on with there journey, but when they blatently stand and stare, that's when it gets really annoying.

Darrin · 24-09-2008, 15:52

Heh, they should try it with an invisible disability.

For those scratching their heads wondering what I'm talking about - my son is autistic. Some of the reactions we get out in public when Patrick acts up or does something out of the norm are incredibly annoying. But, it's part of life. You either take it in stride and continue on, or you let it eat you up and become miserable.

10-09-2008, 16:03	#1
cleanbluesky Abandoned Ship Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 492	I don't think society has a problem with disfigurement and disability... http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7607905.stm I know these people have it harsh, but I think its the natural order for disfigured people to have it harsh. Could be a lot worse than people looking twice at you in the street...

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Admiral Huddy HOMO-Sapien Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Chelmsford Posts: 6,692	"others turn away out of embarrassment. " I think this is a false statement.. I think that people are initially drawn to something different.. which it is .. then are curios... but then don't want to offend the person.. I don't think it's embarrassment. "We don't have to be PC about it. We can't deal with it until people are aware of what they are thinking." I don't think this will change becuase of the human nature of curosity.. but it's nothing more really. __________________ I just got lost in thought.. It was very unfamiliar territory. Techie Talk \| My gaming Blog \| PC spec \| The Admirals log

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Pebs Easymouth Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 6,716	stares at MM It cant be nice, being the focus of peoples curiosity, but Huddy's right, it is very rarely born out of anything other than interest. __________________ ...faster you naughty little monkey! Running through hell, heaven can wait!

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JUMPURS Columbian Coffee Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Glesgae Posts: 98	My gf's brother was just over from the states and his is disabled. He walks with a cane, has a brain injury and some of his muscles in his face don't work great so he can't really pull his top lip down. And when he was over, i didn't notice anyone staring at him, people just took him as normal really. Although he doesn't have serious disfigurements or that, it is still noticeable, plus he has some scars. But like i said, nobody stared, and whenever we where places everyone was very helpful if we needed it (although we didn't need much help) __________________ You have come here because society has no further use for you. This place will now become your holding pen until our death. I am very good at this business because I make all the rules. But if you break any of my rules, you will find that there is life after death.

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Dee Combat Spanker Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 5,292	Believe it or not, I was going to post a thread about this earlier. When I see people like this in the street, they are no different to anyone else IMO, they always seem to be on the lookout for people looking at them though, so when/if we make eye contact, I normally smile at them and carry on. Its not hard not to stare tbh

14-09-2008, 21:34	#9
Denic Long Island Iced Tea Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 103	My brother is disabled, his main disability is with his feet and legs, but he has a number of other problems. His feet arch out badly to the sides, so he doesn't walk like the normal person. It is very noticeable to other people and I think people look just out of curiosity, it's hard to ignore it and not to look. In my opinion it's fine for people to look and see what's going on, and then continue on with there journey, but when they blatently stand and stare, that's when it gets really annoying.

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Darrin Dirteh Kitteh Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Hiding out in Mormon Country Posts: 1,629	Heh, they should try it with an invisible disability. For those scratching their heads wondering what I'm talking about - my son is autistic. Some of the reactions we get out in public when Patrick acts up or does something out of the norm are incredibly annoying. But, it's part of life. You either take it in stride and continue on, or you let it eat you up and become miserable. __________________ A bullet may have your name on it, but shrapnel is addressed "to whom it may concern".